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Thursday, June 16, 2011

The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook

Last month, I received a message from author Gemma Forbes, with a polite request to read and review her new book, The Adult Spanking and Discipline Handbook: A Comprehensive Guide to Corporal Punishment. I'd already heard about this book from John Smith (of Kink and the City), and the title intrigued me. So I replied yes, I would be pleased to do so.

The prologue begins with "Governess Gemma Forbes is one of the best known spankers you’ve probably never heard of." And I confess, I had not heard of her. But I liked her from the first chapter on. A retired pro domme with many years in the scene, Ms. Forbes had much to share, and she did so in a detailed and witty manner.

Establishing from the start that the book is purely about spanking and does not cover other forms of BDSM, Ms. Forbes also clarifies two other points: 1) She is not a switch and bottoming is not to her liking, and 2) while she acknowledges that many enjoy sex with their spankings, that aspect of TTWD will not be delved into here. The purpose of this book is to provide a comprehensive primer on the ABCs of spanking.

The ASDH goes on to discuss all things spanko, including definitions of orientations, discussions of implements and techniques, scenarios, role-playing vs. pure sensation play, and much more. A common thread running through all the chapters is that of safety, communication and trust. For the newbie (and for us old-bies too), these things cannot be emphasized enough. She also covers the topic many shy away from -- how things can go wrong, and how to handle it if they do.

I really enjoyed Ms. Forbes' writing style. For one thing, even though she is a top, she did not write the entire book from a femdom viewpoint. She changes up the orientations, describing various scenes and aspects from an M/F POV as well as F/M and some F/F. And for another, she is funny, warm and compassionate. Clearly, she understands the bottom psyche, even though she is not one herself.

According to Ms. Forbes, one of the hallmarks of a good top is the ability to command authority without being abusive. I couldn't agree more.

Finally, for those who have considered going pro, there are chapters at the end with thorough information dedicated to this subject.

For an engaging and informative read on our beloved kink, I recommend this book heartily!


  1. Hi Erica thank's so much for the book review, that book sound's VERY interesting it's something i definately want to check out :-)I agree and like a Top with the ability to command authority without being abusive :-)even though i like getting spanked by a guy top i like getting spanked by female top's the best. I never heard of Governess Gemma Forbes either but she sound's AWESOME too bad she's retired it would be fun to get spanked by her :-) Love and Hug's to you my dear friend from your naughty girl Jade xoxo

  2. Thanks for the info. Sounds intriguing.

  3. Jade -- just follow the link in my blog and you can read all about it. :-)

    Bree -- you're welcome. She didn't miss anything, I don't think.

  4. Hmmm. Sounds like an interesting book. I will have to check into that. Thanks for posting about it.

  5. Thank's Erica WOW it is COOL i checked it out from your link :-) I can't wait until your book come's out i will most definately be reading that one too :-) LOVE YOU

  6. Bobbie Jo -- I think you will like it.

    Pink -- (dramatic hand to forehead) Someone's gotta do it.