Some of my readers will remember posts from a couple of years ago, when John and I were scening with Craig Aych and his wife at the Lair de Sade dungeon. As you may recall, my scenes with Craig were awesome, but I didn't like the place or most of the people there. Way too much ADD (Almighty Dom Disorder). (No, I can't claim credit for that initialism.)
In particular, there was one DM (Dungeon Master) who used to strut around like a pompous peacock, implements sticking out of his pockets, flexing his muscles and talking tough. He and I never spoke to one another, but I was always aware of his presence (it was hard to miss him, really).
Here's an excerpt from an April 2009 blog, after playing:
We ended up hanging out in the kitchen for another hour, although I did very little talking. I sat and listened, this idiotic glowing grin on my face, feeling myself fade. Just one sour note marred the bliss; there was a guy in the kitchen (not going to give any name or details) who was talking a mile a minute, blustering away about how he manages his slaves. He beats this one, fucks that one, beats AND fucks this other one. None of his slaves is allowed to close the door when she uses the bathroom ("It's MY house, and I have complete access to EVERY room, ALL the time"). He went on and on about what he won't accept, and said, "You can tell me no, but only once. You say it a second time, and you're out the door." Charming.
I was leaning my head against John's shoulder, looking the other way and allowing myself to make disgusted faces. Part of me was thinking, "Turn it off, Erica, turn it off, don't listen, don't listen." ... there was nowhere to go but outside, and it was too cold and I was just too damned sleepy. I have to tell you though, folks, it took all my restraint to not snap, "Oh, Jesus Christ, get over yourself." What good would that have done? He'd just laugh it off and probably tell me something like I needed a few hours with him to set me straight. And I would have embarrassed John. I have to remember where I am, and behave accordingly. I just wish I could understand why this sort of thing makes me react so strongly. At least John validated me. He's usually the first one to chide me for being judgmental, but when I brought up how I felt about our blowhard buddy, his first words were, "Oh god, he was a BORE."
So why am I laughing? Well, this guy basically looked down his nose at me every time I was at the Lair, since I was so obviously a misfit there. Spanking? Meh. Cotton candy. He's into REAL submissives and slaves. Right?
Right. Guess who answered my Alt.com ad? LOL!
Give My profile a read If you want to talk write Me back
Yup, same guy. Writing to a clearly non-submissive, non-slave type, 14 years his senior. How desperate is he? What's the matter, Hot Stuff -- did your harem get sick of your domineering ass? Guess he doesn't recognize the sassy brat at the Lair who had a mouth and a voice and who rolled her eyes at him every time he used his.
Part of me wanted to reply: "I know who you are. I've seen you, and heard you, at the Lair. No, thank you." But then I figured it's even more of a diss if I just don't answer at all, or look at his profile. He's been looking at mine every day. And he can see that I haven't looked at his.
It's a strange world, folks.
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Go on.... shoo!
The rest of you? Please take your judge-y selves somewhere more wholesome, like here: www.wonderbread.com
Go on.... shoo!
I am very sure I know exactly who you are talking about, and that he's the guy who took my ice cream at a munch and told me to get on my knees and beg for it back. He wasn't too pleased when I stood up to him and told him to quit being a dick and give me my food :P
ReplyDeleteAlex -- Seriously?? Oh my God. That would have set me off in a big way. Nobody messes with my food. NOBODY.
ReplyDeleteOh Erica! That is hysterical! You've got to come up with something to send back to him.. how about, ...
ReplyDelete"Man... 600 million sperm, and you're the one that made it?" *shakes head*
Or say.. "Ya know what, I think I'll go to the circus, at least at the circus ... the clowns don't talk."
hahahaha!
Love the jokes Zelle. There are so many of those out there... but it's still disgustingly shocking to run into someone so ridiculously egotistical, pompous and disrespectful. One of those assholes who got picked on in middle school and now has something to prove to the world... yuck.
ReplyDeleteI bet you if the tide was turned on him, he would cry like a baby. Some of those "macho" (I'm being nice here LOL) types are like that. They seem to think they are hot stuff, but when the chips are down, they are wimps.
ReplyDeleteYeah, you could write something back, but I doubt it would even register with him. One day his arrogance will cause him to fall on his rear big time.
Zelle -- (giggles) Oh, it's so tempting. But honestly, for this guy, I think the complete lack of response is the most infuriating!
ReplyDelete360 -- you know, I can't imagine this guy ever being picked on. I think he was probably one of the schoolyard bullies, and grew up into a scene bully.
Bobbie Jo -- I'm just wondering what happened to his house of slaves. (snicker) The fact that he's writing to a profile like mine is rather telling.
I'd have shoved the ice cream in that jerk off's face. There is NO way in HELL I would EVER bow down to, beg or worship ANYONE in the fetish world-especially a "Master" or a dom.I think I have to go against the majority for once here, and write him back and tell him just HOW much of an ass he is. But I am in an exceptionally bad mood, so maybe don't take my suggestion.
ReplyDeleteKelly -- but what a waste of perfectly good ice cream! :-)
ReplyDeleteBad mood? Nah, don't know anything about those...
It is funny when these pretentious Masters act almighty and overbearing, to look tough, and then... oops, suddenly all the slaves have defected from them. I wonder why!
ReplyDeleteWhat surprises me is the fact that he lasted so long. More than 2 years before you found him crawling! Quite an achievement, considering the type. :D
Christy -- some of them do last, sadly. I see on Fet and other places that the dom I wrote about in my book who beat the bejesus out of me in my early scene days is still active as ever (he adopted a different name, though). Blech.
ReplyDeleteWell, his schtick seems to have worked and got him a houseful of "slaves" who apparently ate that stuff up...at least for a while. Ugh.
ReplyDelete-Sean
Hi Erica, I agree with Zelle that it's hysterical hehehe LOL :-)I would tell that STUPID ARSE dom where to go and how to get there hehehe and as for the ice cream i would tell him stick it where the sun don't shine LMAO :-)I don't know how he could ignore you at the lair you are totally AWESOME.As the saying goes YOU CAN'T FIX STUPID and he is quite stupid hehehe.Thanks for sharing much love and hugs to you from your naughty girl Jade XOXO
ReplyDeleteSean -- many like that sort of thing, and to each their own. But his attitude is way over the top. And why on earth is he contacting ME?
ReplyDeleteJade -- honey, pretty much everyone ignored me at the Lair. I just didn't fit in. It's OK. :-)
Those types really irk me, too -- both male and female. I try to be open-minded, but when I see them referring to their subs as "its", I see red. I don't understand how subs can believe they deserve such ill treatment.
ReplyDeleteIt warms my heart that perhaps this guy has run out of willing prospects for the administration of his misogyny. Perhaps the world isn't so screwed after all?
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Pink -- I know D/s relationships exist. But you know, that business about not allowing his slaves to close the bathroom door really pissed me off, if you'll pardon the pun.
ReplyDeleteGiven I was there, I know... You should have written back and said, "Yes, sir." Clearly, after almost two years, he doesn't remember you at all...
ReplyDeleteCraig -- yup, you know. You probably remember the name I used to call him as well. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI am sure "Idiot" wasn't what you called him. LOL I can only imagine. ;-D
ReplyDelete*some of them do last, sadly. I see on Fet and other places that the dom I wrote about in my book who beat the bejesus out of me in my early scene days is still active as ever (he adopted a different name, though). Blech. *
ReplyDeleteThat's because they continue to prey on the newbies and emotionally vulnerable in the scene, who don't know any better until it's too late.
Good for you for not giving him the time of day! I would do just like you. Deliberately NOT go to his profile so as to not give him the satisfaction of that, AND I would be somewhat active on the site so he knows you've been there, have seen his message, and are giving it no thought. :-D
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Sarah -- yeah, he's a real prize. I have since found out through PMs with Alex that her ice-cream guy is indeed one and the same as this one. Ugh.
ReplyDeleteFound him on FetLife, too -- I have 200 more friends than he does, neener neener. :-)
I do remember. Yup! Very well, actually!
ReplyDeleteCraig -- knew you would.
ReplyDeleteLea -- no, he most certainly isn't. And yes, it took supreme control on my part to keep my mouth shut that night!
OK, he is a jerk. There is no shortage of them. This type continues because there are enough women who are doormats to fed his ego. Supply and demand keeps both alive I suppose.
ReplyDeleteFor me, the world would be better without both.
I think you are showing admirable restraint in not peeking at his profile. I'm sure he's annoyed and frustrated. But I wonder how he passes himself off? Similarly to his words at the Lair or more laid-back?
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Hermione
Lovely Oscar Wilde style revenge on your part ;-)
ReplyDeleteOBB -- sad, but true.
ReplyDeleteHermione -- well, his tagline (which I can see without going to his profile) reads: "I don't date... I Possess." Nope, not seeing laid-back there. :-)
Al -- why, thank you.
Erica - from your pictures and your comments on Poppy's blog, I know you are a beautiful woman. I just wanted you to know that.
ReplyDeleteSweetsong x
Sweetsong -- what a lovely thing to say. Thank you so much. :-)
ReplyDeleteI second Sweetsong's motion!
ReplyDeleteHave a good weekend, Erica. I have a feeling it won't be as quiet as you want because of the noisy neighbors, but you never know. Maybe they will go somewhere else for a party.
Whatever, just have a Happy New Year!
sometimes the most precious satisfactions come in such simple ways...excellent story!!
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nilla -- thanks! Yes, indeed they do.
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