Don't worry, kids. One of these days I will get back on topic. No Chrossing for me this week, for sure! I was going to write up a nice long post of answers to the questions some of you posed to me, but I'm postponing that. Instead, I want to reflect on how kind people can be. I bitch a lot about cluelessness, small-mindedness and idiocy, so every now and then I need to switch up the focus.
Thank you to everyone who commented on my past couple of blogs, and thank you as well to those who read them. My blog hits soared the past couple of days, which almost never happens except when I'm Chrossed. I guess a lot of people could relate to the subject matter. Anyway, I've been really touched by the kind and thoughtful words people have shared with me, both on and off the blog.
Yesterday, when I was in that fragile, post-meltdown state, I got an unexpected email from, of all people, John's co-worker. One line: "John said you needed this," and he'd attached a photo. It was a picture of his 18-month-old daughter, sitting in a sandbox, seriously focused on her bright purple plastic pail. John knows there are few things in life that make me smile bigger than an adorable toddler. I may not want my own children, but I definitely appreciate how cute other people's kids are! That picture lifted my spirits.
Later when I spoke with John, I mentioned how all my new computer components are sitting in boxes on my living room floor (I have to make an appointment with my computer guy to set everything up, transfer files, etc.). John said, "Excellent! Let's celebrate your new computer," and he suggested we go to one of our favorite restaurants on Friday. Then he said to remind him to go to the bank on Saturday so he could cash a check. Yes, he's buying this computer for me. What a guy, huh? ♥
Today, I received a beautiful PM from a friend who wishes to remain anonymous, but I got permission to quote part of it, because it's too lovely to keep all to myself:
I just want to tell you that despite your needs, which are many, but don't all of us have lots of needs?, I think you have turned into a tremendously strong woman. My God, you are a writer, and in some ways you are the doyenne of spanking women. So many women look up to you for how to act in a classy way at a spanking party, and so many men crave to be around you at a spanking party. You glow at the parties and you set a standard of beauty and playfulness.
I do believe I'm speechless after that, so I will end here.
Friends are the antidote to life's occasional suckage. I love you. Thank you for loving me.
thanks for often being the antidote to my life suckage. Love ya Erica.
ReplyDeleteDrLectr -- I love you too, Joe! :-)
ReplyDeleteYes, Erica, as that woman rightly says, you sure are a great writer. And you express beautifully your feelings, be it pro or con. It is a pleasure to read this prose of yours. XXX Luv ya.
ReplyDeleteWe love you too...that was an amazing note, thank you for sharing and thank you for being our beautiful and talented writer and friend. Amazing.
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Ron
Six -- I'm glad. Writing well honors my father. :-)
ReplyDeleteRon -- thank you so much.
It is a lovely honor.....from a lovely daughter. I have to assume you know how much we care about you and well, actually need you and your wonderful lines and thoughts....and your bottom!
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Erica, you need your Daddy.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous -- if you mean my father, I had him, and I still have memories. If you mean in the spanking sense... um, no. :-) What I have now is lovely.
ReplyDeleteI think writing does a theraputic world of good no matter what feelings you're experiencing. Even though you endure bouts of depression, at least you fight through it in a sensible way. You don't abuse drugs or cause harm to yourself. I think it's great you have John in your life as a rock, too.
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Kelly -- years of therapy (and let's not forget meds) have helped me develop coping tools. And yes, John gets me very well, and never judges. ♥
ReplyDeleteWe all love you Erica. John is a great guy, you are both very lucky to have each other.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear you're better (or getting there). Hope you can see there are a lot of folks out there thinking of you and well-wishing...
ReplyDeleteGlad to know you. You're such a great woman. XOXO
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joey -- I am lucky indeed; he's one of the good ones.
ReplyDeleteCraig -- I do, and thank you. :-)
otkd -- thank you, sweetie!
Erica, you are a superstar in the blogging world. You come across as strong, confident, assertive, and likeable. Everyone's life sucks from time to time, but not all of us have the guts to write about it and share our downs as well as our ups.
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Hermione
Hermione -- coming from you, that means a great deal. Thank you so much.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing so much of your life and self, Erica - it is difficult not to start loving what one thus encounters. :-))
ReplyDeleteMrJ -- that's very kind; thank you. :-)
ReplyDeleteErica,
ReplyDeleteIt's all true. All of those nice things that everyone said are a mirror reflecting back the real you. The beautiful image you see is yourself as you appear to us.
Good times or bad, you're a talented writer and an inspired diarist. But that's not really why we all love you. We love you because you're our own sweet, salty, wonderful Erica!
Hang in there, Sis. You need never feel alone.
Big hugs,
Bonnie
Bonnie -- ♥ ♥ ♥ !! Thank you. You and others have given me so many smiles and warm fuzzies over the past couple of days. I'm going to keep all these treats for my next gray day.
ReplyDeleteHow ironic -- I don't like sweet and salty together. LOL!
It is easier writing about the ups than the downs. You bare it all. You are strong, clever, funny, and real. As snarky as you are kind to the ones who matter. As smart as you are beautiful. Of course people react with kindness because you get what you give. I'm glad John was there for you and hope this week improves for you.
ReplyDeleteLea -- I have never thought of myself as a giving person. I'm glad to hear that others do. :-) The week has gotten much better, due at least in part to good friends!
ReplyDeleteHi Erica -- I Love you too you are the GREATEST and John is a GREAT guy too,that's AWESOME for him to buy you a computer :-)Hug's from naughty girl Jade
ReplyDeleteJade -- yes, he is! :-)
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