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Friday, April 15, 2011

Happy Tax Day

Or is that an oxymoron? Perhaps I should say Happy Chross Day. Can I briefly mention the amazing power that man has in the blogosphere? Last week, I didn't make the cut, and I swear my page hits went into the dumpster. (sniff) By midweek this week, even with all my blathering about books and my Monday scene, they were pitiful next to what I usually get. Did anyone else's views take a nosedive too -- was it just one of those weeks? Whatever. I am being obsessive about the numbers game. Can't help it, though, when I hear something like what Mr. Smith the author told me last week. We were talking about popular sites and he told me of a blog/website of a popular femdom, I don't remember her name. On average, she gets 20,000 hits a day. Twenty-thousand???? Sometimes I feel like I am batting for the wrong team!

Perhaps for another blog post sometime, I should open the floor about the mystique and worship of female dominants. I saw it when I worked at Passive Arts, I see it on the various kink sites, I have seen it through John. It's fascinating to me.

I posted a similar request to the one I did on Model Mayhem, only this time on FetLife in a Models and Photographers forum. What a difference! I've received several nice offers and now I have to decide which way to go. I suppose I could have more than one photographer take some shots, right? Choices are good things. Once I get this photo, then I can start addressing the formatting and finalizing. Exciting stuff!

And in three weeks, I shoot for Spanking Court. I have no idea what my "crime" is going to be... any ideas that haven't been done to death? I know I'm doing two sessions; they offered me a choice of 1-3 sessions in one shooting day, and I decided to go for the middle option. I can't wait!

All this fun activity will help take my mind off the Boardwalk Badness Weekend in Atlantic City, end of this month. So many of my friends are going and it sounds like it's going to be quite the event. (sigh) Because the hotel is small, the body count is limited and they filled up months ago, but we wouldn't have been able to make it anyway. John ends up paying for nearly everything on these weekends, since he is in so much better financial shape than I. And since spanking parties are really my thing more than his, I feel guilty about asking him to do more than one a year, because they are quite expensive. Perhaps next year, we'll consider doing both BBW and SL. After all, we did SL and Florida Moonshine last year. Meanwhile, I have friends who have promised to give me all the details.

Back to the blog hits thing for a moment -- have I gotten complacent? Has my blog become too redundant? Anything you guys would enjoy seeing discussed here? Sometimes I feel like I've covered every topic and aspect of the scene at least twice. There are so damn many of us out there, chattering away on these blogs. What keeps people coming back, when the topics cycle and recycle all over the blogosphere?

Yes, I'm all over the place. Focus, Erica. There is a stack of mail to attend to, a birthday card that must be addressed and mailed (yes, some of us still send those), errands to run, chores to do, must get ready to head for John's. Have a great weekend, y'all.


  1. Erica,
    I come back again and again to hear YOUR voice. You are smart and funny, and something of a wise-ass (I know that's news to you.) You make me laugh as you titillate my senses. =) Keep it up, your star will (is on the?)rise!

  2. Your AWESOME my Erica i keep coming back cause your the GREATEST and i LOVE what you blog about your funny and honest and you ALWAYS make me laugh and put a smile on my face, even when i am VERY sick and want to cry :-) I think you deserve over one 100 million hits a day :-) your the most interesting and creative person i know and i am VERY happy to call you my best friend, YOU ROCK GIRL :-) I can't wait to see your shoot from spanking court that is so EXCITING, Wishing you and John a WONDERFUL and FUN weekend Love you ton's and big hugs xoxo

  3. My only issue with blogs is the abundance of them. I drastically have limited the amount I view on a regular basis. This site is always sure to get me to chuckle over and over.

    Possibly some people read here and don't post comment if they actually had designs on converting you to a top or bottoming to another woman. They may know it's a lost cause! :)

    I do get the ego driven importance about the hits. I have a very big ego but since my vanilla job is corporate robotic, cookie cutter, I don't stand out and don't want to there. I get my ego fix from spanking friends and karaoke bar singing and even there, sometimes I could have sung a kick ass rock song and have gotten not ONE clap. Other times the whole room applauds. So try not to get bummed when the hits are light. Otherwise NG may have to light your butt up but good for being a little down.

  4. Anonymous -- thank you; that's very sweet. :-) Hmmmm... I may have heard the wise-ass thing a time or two, can't remember.

    Jade -- thanks, hon. Take care and get well, and I look forward to hearing about the new kitty when I come home.

    Kelly -- LOL; he's going light it up anyway, regardless of my mindset!

    The blogger ego is a force to be reckoned with, 'tis true.

  5. I think there's a lot of competition and blog readers tend to have short attention spans. There are a lot of women out there getting spanked and blogging about it and people like variety. Don't take it too hard if people tend to wander in and out. Personally, I really like your writing style and straight forward approach.

    And, to be honest, I love your correspondence of shame features. They give me a chuckle at the end of the week.

  6. Anonymous -- thanks; yeah, the attention span thing.

    I love doing the CHoS as well. Word has definitely gotten out, though -- I don't get anywhere near as many of those crappy messages as I used to! LOL So I save them up and do one whenever I amass a few.

  7. I also went unChrossed last week, and my stats tanked too. What is it about that man? Even after three years of blogging, I am still dependent on that weekly shout out to raise my hits above a thousand a day. 20,000? I can't imagine it!

    There are now so many spanking blogs, I think readers are challenged to get to all the good ones, never mind comment. I've been occupied with work lately and haven't had the usual leisure to read and comment; withdrawal isn't pretty!


  8. I am also quite amazed at the power of this little feature of mine - that started out so innocently a few years ago. I didn't think it would be that popular. Not at all...and now it's a monster!
    Just for your information (and not to show off!) my site at the moment also receives around 20.000 page views a day, so the impact of a link - even if only a smaller percentage of visitors clicks on it over the weekend - is not surprising.

    Cheers and have a nice weekend

  9. Hermione -- work has the damndest bad habit of interfering with our fun, doesn't it?

    Chross -- the man himself! :-D I'm not surprised about your hits; I believe you have the entire spanko blogosphere visiting you regularly.

  10. Dear Erica,

    I am blogging as an outlet and I am very new to the blogging sphere, and my blog is allove the show... I like you work and you should remain true to yourself... why get caught up in statporn? As long as your write there will be someone to read it, some weeks just a few less than others...

  11. Dear Erica,

    I come here because of your wit, intelligence, humor and insight. And because of your willingness to reveal and share yourself.

    I did learn about Chross's blog but he is not one I visit. I have my core blogs that I go to for entertainment and enlightenment and to feel part of this community.

    Though I comment rarely, but that has more to do with my lack of confidence in self expression.


  12. LOL! I missed out this week, and oh yea gods, it is quite depressing, but congratulations to you!!

    Twenty thousand hits? Not even in my wildest dreams...sigh

    Oh, and by the way - I might come in late, this work thing is truly getting on my nerves - but I come, because I love your blog - regardless.



  13. Hi: When we start wondering about the number of hits, maybe we are losing sight of why we blog! Yet, having stated that, I still look at the hits every few days.As long as you are having fun, blogging is worthwhile. I just wish I could drop by more often.
    happy spankings

  14. Scarlett -- statporn! Ha! I like that. It's hard not to focus on the numbers... we all want to be read. But I will try not to.

    Raven -- work sucks! Always happy to see you. :-)

    Red -- I blog 'cause I want attention, dammit! No, no... kidding, I promise. :-) I do have fun with it, a lot.

  15. Honestly, if I had 20K views a day I think I would go into hiding. I'm a little less anxious about views than I used to be, but each time my average takes a major leap I suffer a tiny bit of stage fright. (I am not complaining.) That's the shy girl in me -- which you definitely are not. :)

    I'm not sure what makes people come, stay or go, but you have a unique voice and -- barring any major punctuation errors -- make everyone feel welcome. :P

    And thanks to Chross for putting so many of us on readers' lists!

  16. Pink -- yes indeed, thanks to Chross, and thank YOU for the compliment. Believe it or not, I am often shy in person, in my vanilla life. But online, no. :-)