Regarding last night's flame war...

I will not have this. Is that clear? Jesus -- I go to sleep, silly me, and I wake up to this mess. Haven't had this blog for two weeks and already I have a flame war. Welcome to Blogspot, Erica.

I should have known that a controversial topic such as the one I posted was risky, but I thought people could handle it, and for the most part, they did.

Anonymous -- your original point could have been well taken, if you hadn't degenerated into insults. My original point was not disparaging F/M -- it was merely saying that I, Erica, cannot watch it. It's how I feel and it's my damn blog. I never said anything directly nasty about men who bottom; I kept it to my own feelings and expressed that I wished I felt differently, but it is what it is and we all have our preferences.

KinkyAG, who is a male bottom, chimed in with his thoughts, but he was perfectly civil about it, and I appreciated that greatly. You, not so much. There was a way you could have made your points without attacking and being so nasty. Please don't do it anymore. Has Zelle no shame? Yes, she does. I know her, have met her, and she is a person of high quality, intelligence and compassion. So knock it off with the insults to her.

I will not get into a he-said-she-said fest here. I will simply restate my personal rules: Comments are to be civil. No flame-throwing. No attacking each other. And no cross-talk. If you guys have an argument with one another, take it elsewhere. Take it to email. Take it to carrier pigeon; I don't care. This is not an open forum, this is a blog.

Zelle and Lorraine, I'm sorry you two were attacked. But next time something like this happens (and it will, I'm guessing), please alert me. I monitor my comments closely and if I feel that something is insulting or inflammatory, I will sideline it, try to defuse it and if none of that works, I'll delete it. And yes, some people will call that censorship, but I don't care. Engaging with certain people is fruitless; they feed on it and they don't stop. Lorraine, I sincerely hope you will continue to comment.

Again, I'm sorry that my last topic offended some people. But I am going to post controversial topics here sometime -- it's who I am. Opinions different from mine are welcome, but they must be expressed in a way that doesn't attack. And I expect people to be adult and not hijack my blog with potshots at each other. That is childish and I am not a freaking hall monitor. OK? I don't want to wake up and have to deal with stuff like this.

Oh, and Anonymous, for the record? My real name is Erica. Scott is fabricated. I've been very open about that. Many people in the spanking scene have an alternate name; it's not about phoniness, it's about maintaining a bit of safety and privacy, even though we are very public about what we do.

Dammit -- I had a really fun blog planned for today; I was so looking forward to posting it. But I guess that will have to wait. Now if you will excuse me, I'm going to go cool off.