tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post962744313581387048..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: VanityEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-43562819055687244772011-09-27T21:40:23.802-07:002011-09-27T21:40:23.802-07:00Eston -- thank you. :-)Eston -- thank you. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-91477311488787646342011-09-27T21:24:16.247-07:002011-09-27T21:24:16.247-07:00Erica ,your a beautiful lady inside and out, you d...Erica ,your a beautiful lady inside and out, you dont need to change a thing .Listen to John .HuggsEstonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-85043271612286343052011-09-27T11:49:30.179-07:002011-09-27T11:49:30.179-07:00Ronnie -- thank you. Yeah, I smile with my whole f...Ronnie -- thank you. Yeah, I smile with my whole face and my eyes, people say. Got the crow's-feet to show for it too, but oh well. :-) I don't like fake smiles.<br /><br />Christian -- I have managed to overwrite several old tapes over the years, thankfully. Some are more stubborn than others. Kind of like computer files you think you've deleted, but they still lurk in the nether regions of the hard drive. :-)<br /><br />Adriane -- wow. That made me tear up again (but in a good way). Thank you. You're absolutely right -- emotions are not bad things. They are human things. It's what we choose to do with them that can be either beneficial or disastrous. I have learned that if I bottle my feelings, I sink into an abyss. I got tired of that.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-61312396361595896032011-09-27T10:23:02.974-07:002011-09-27T10:23:02.974-07:00Hello! First, even though it has been said a zill...Hello! First, even though it has been said a zillion times already, you look perfectly attractive as is and you do not need cosmetic surgery. Secondly, do leave this post up, it is a comfort to others who get the same feelings to know they are not alone. Goodness knows if I ever get the money the first things I'd get would be braces (my family couldn't afford them when I was a kid) and liposuction (can't stand my thighs). Anyway, it's universal for us to have these insecurities, and I'm sorry that you were sad because of them. The worst part about being upset over something is feeling like you're the only one. By posting this and putting it out there that even someone with your looks has these feelings, you make other women feel less alone, less silly for being upset, and like maybe things aren't so bad after all. Third, you set a great example to the rest us by delaying your purchase in the name of fiscal good behavior. Budgeting sucks. Being not the only one super sad over not getting something that you really, really "need" wanted makes it suck less. <br /><br /> Your raw honesty about your feelings in this matter make this post, and the one following it a real gem. I recently obtained both of your books, and I loved that about them too. Too often people burry their feelings and try to squash them in the name of "self control" or "dignity" but there is nothing wrong with feeling one's feelings or aknowleging when you are upset. Self control is not punching someone when you're angry. Getting angry is fine, sayin you are mad is fine, punching someone is not. Feelings separate us from computers.<br /><br /> Hope you feel better or at least "at peace" as you said, with this issue. Love your candid writing style, and happy belated birthday as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-73029044888307225052011-09-27T05:54:37.839-07:002011-09-27T05:54:37.839-07:00"My reason? I have myriad reasons. Are any of..."My reason? I have myriad reasons. Are any of them good? Probably not. But they're real. Do I wish I felt differently? You bet. And as for vain airheads... I'M the vain airhead. :-) I'm the one who cares so damn much about how I look. Old, lifelong programming sticks and sticks, sometimes."<br /><br />Can't disagree with anything you write there. All I can say is that the real challenge is dealing with that old programming and overwriting it with a new one that allows you to be happier with how you naturally look ;-) <br /><br />But you don't need me or anyone else to tell you that. You already know that. And I'm willing to bet that posting this on your blog, is one way of trying to overwrite the aforementioned mental programming *S*<br /><br />/ChristianAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-73471691557209684472011-09-27T01:37:50.819-07:002011-09-27T01:37:50.819-07:00Erica, I echo what everyone else says. From what ...Erica, I echo what everyone else says. From what I read about you and the pictures you post, you are a lovely person, beautiful inside and out. You have a wonderful smile that lights up your whole face, you can see your smile in your eyes such a genuine smile.<br /><br />I'm not going to say do it or don't do it, that I'm afraid has to be your decision. Before you decide either way maybe visit a few more doctors.<br /><br />Love and hugs,<br />Ronnie<br />xx<br /><br />PS - Health Insurance at £1000 a month, I'm glad I live in the UK:)ronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-1617607556669406362011-09-26T23:30:09.191-07:002011-09-26T23:30:09.191-07:00Hi Erica,
I visit Dana Kane's blog fairly reg...Hi Erica,<br /><br />I visit Dana Kane's blog fairly regularly. She had recommended your writing some weeks ago and the memory of that, plus catching this headline in her sidebar a bit earlier this evening, pulled me in. I like your writing too much not to come again.ajrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670594712612580536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-5338067014299405302011-09-26T22:58:23.788-07:002011-09-26T22:58:23.788-07:00Lea -- those are very loving, accepting words. Tha...Lea -- those are very loving, accepting words. Thank you so much.<br /><br />ajr -- welcome. What brought you to my blog? I hope you will indeed come back and read more.<br /><br />Yeah, I'm quite human. I never wanted to be a taker OR a giver when I was young. Now... oh hell. I can see that they both have their places.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-74305747947131641932011-09-26T22:14:21.125-07:002011-09-26T22:14:21.125-07:00First time visitor. Normally I'm pretty strong...First time visitor. Normally I'm pretty strong with the unsolicited advice, but for once I'll pass. Just wanted to say that I love your voice, or more accurately your honesty; it makes me want to read more.<br /><br />I'm pulling for your happiness and success.<br /><br />P.S. I'm not involved with this scene but from what little I read, I share your feelings of disgust at some of the weird dynamics there. If it isn't on some level healthy, that is good for the person overall, then it isn't sexy. That goes for both crippling sex organs to taking money for nothing - not healthy. But I love your admission to being susceptible when it'll bring you closer to what you really want. Me too!ajrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14670594712612580536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-80739383577090481232011-09-26T21:48:02.431-07:002011-09-26T21:48:02.431-07:00Erica, you are beautiful. Really, really beautiful...Erica, you are beautiful. Really, really beautiful. But it's not vain or foolish to want to change something about yourself. We all see things that we don't like when we look in the mirror, whether anyone else notices them or not. If you can realistically make it happen, I say go for it. If not, I hope you are able to put it to rest and not feel bad about it.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-2003155529919096272011-09-26T18:21:36.704-07:002011-09-26T18:21:36.704-07:00Pink -- I do need to work toward it. Having a goal...Pink -- I do need to work toward it. Having a goal will motivate me. And paper tiger or no, the words are lovely to hear, so thank you.<br /><br />Christian -- welcome. I appreciate your taking the time at your late hour, from your part of the world, to reach out... especially since you had to type it twice!<br /><br />My reason? I have myriad reasons. Are any of them good? Probably not. But they're real. Do I wish I felt differently? You bet. And as for vain airheads... I'M the vain airhead. :-) I'm the one who cares so damn much about how I look. Old, lifelong programming sticks and sticks, sometimes.<br /><br />Thank you for caring. It means more than you know.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-50451448442196544052011-09-26T17:16:45.612-07:002011-09-26T17:16:45.612-07:00Oh for (=/¤"&#?)( sake. Here I type up a...Oh for (=/¤"&#?)( sake. Here I type up a well considdered comment, and then I screw up the posting of it...<br /><br />Anyway. In a shorter form then, given that it's 2am and I got to get to bed.<br /><br />I don't follow your blog regularly, but your entry here touch something in me, and motivates me to write this.<br /><br />I'll echo the people that tell you that you don't need any form of surgery. You have a great body, and you look younger than you are. Given some of your entries on this blog, I'll additionally claim that you have to be both experienced and at least reasonably intelligent. <br /><br />You've heard all this before though, so I'll pose you a question for you to ponder the answer to, and a challenge.<br /><br />Question: Why does this matter to you?<br /><br />As the rational part of your brain has already told you, expensive surgery isn't an option at this point. So do the better thing. <br /><br />Challenge: Answer my question for yourself, and then deal with your reason for feeling the need for it in the first place. <br /><br />Like so many others, you see all of those picture perfect advertisements and stars, and they all look so fantastic! I can guarantee you that with a proper application of photoshop you can be made to look however you want to look. There isn't a picture you see in magazines etc. that aren't photoshopped to hell and far beyond. Remove the make-up and the photoshop effects and you wouldn't recognize half the supermodels and stars you see in magazines today. <br /><br />The fact of the matter is that you look good, and your friends believe so too, and those people are the only ones that matter. Who cares what some vain airhead might theoretically think about how you look! It simply doesn't matter. At all. If we are not a part of your life, and if you don't need something from us, we and our oppinions about you are utterly irrellevant. <br /><br />Perhaps not as diplomatic as I could have put some of this, but I hope you get my meaning ;-)<br /><br />All the best to you in all ways.<br /><br /><br />/Christian, Denmark, Europe<br /><br />P.S.<br />With regards to your freelance business, I'd suggest you pay a visit to www.thetoiletpaperentrepreneur.com. You might be able to find some inspiration to marketing yourself in a new way, finding new customers, and improving/growing your business. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-1020438301784716982011-09-26T15:33:28.324-07:002011-09-26T15:33:28.324-07:00Erica, I think Zelle brings up a valid point about...Erica, I think Zelle brings up a valid point about confidence bringing in more money. (Although there is a point where it tops out, obviously.) <br /><br />Is this something you could start saving for? I use the envelope system: put my desire on the outside of an envelope and start putting every spare dollar into it. Spare dollars accumulate faster than you think.<br /><br />I know we're not talking chump change. But perhaps if you start working toward it, it will make you feel like you are doing something about it. That always helps me.<br /><br />Anyway, I'll tell you you are gorgeous -- 'cuz you are -- but I also know that words are paper tigers against self-doubt. <br /><br />Big hugs,<br /><br />PinkPinkhttp://barelypinkreport.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-40099604032881291142011-09-26T15:14:10.736-07:002011-09-26T15:14:10.736-07:00Kelly -- ugh. Parents. Gotta love 'em... not.
...Kelly -- ugh. Parents. Gotta love 'em... not.<br /><br />You know, it's a pride thing. If I can't afford it, I don't buy it. Period. I don't know how people sleep at night when they're in debt, but I just couldn't.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-64769244992821632162011-09-26T15:02:40.490-07:002011-09-26T15:02:40.490-07:00To repeat what so many others have said, I also th...To repeat what so many others have said, I also think you are a great looking woman who could already pass for many years younger than your calendar age. I also know enough about you to say YOU know your own mind, wants and needs better than anyone else. <br /><br />I also think you inherited a self critical tendency possibly from your mother's standards of beauty. It's hard not to when someone you love makes the same critical judgements on his/herself as well as loved ones and strangers. As a kid I had mild psoriasis on my face and knees and remember my father screaming at me, "What the fu@@'s wrong with your face?!"<br /><br />Yes THAT unjustified bs treatment stuck with me to this day. I have since undergone facial laser treatments and can see how much smoother and even my skin looks. <br /><br />I so understand your job dilemma. You would most likely outshine many of the grossly overpaid office slackers-but it's NOT your desire. I HATE it too. :) Would you reconsider your no debt status and work out a payment plan with the surgeon?Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09006086163765646438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-38533347152521497292011-09-26T15:01:35.881-07:002011-09-26T15:01:35.881-07:00Zelle -- believe me, I want to do it. Yeah, yeah, ...Zelle -- believe me, I want to do it. Yeah, yeah, beauty is only skin deep, it's what's inside that counts, blah blah blah. Fuck that. :-) However... being broke and dependent would not be very empowering. And being impractical is childish. (heavy sigh)<br /><br />Bobbie Jo -- no, you didn't. :-)<br /><br />Craig -- you know how it is, darlin'. We never see what others see.<br /><br />six -- you tryin' to kill me? Latkes are loaded with saturated fat and calories. :-)<br /><br />John -- I will never look like everyone else. My features are too... unusual. :-)<br /><br />As for Bob Hoskins, he's a character actor. They're well paid to be, well, kinda not so good looking.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-29426087677634323272011-09-26T14:53:01.329-07:002011-09-26T14:53:01.329-07:00There is nothing wrong with your face. Your cheek...There is nothing wrong with your face. Your cheeky smile lights up any page you are on. Your face has character as well as beauty.<br /><br />As an aside, Bob Hoskins says that plastic surgery is the secret of his success as he is one of very few actors who has never had it done. Why look the same as everybody else?<br /><br />JohnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-77136485884027044692011-09-26T13:54:45.751-07:002011-09-26T13:54:45.751-07:00Erica, this week starts the Jewish New Year 5772. ...Erica, this week starts the Jewish New Year 5772. So remember our 'Yiddishe' heritage tells us we are survivors. So with that in mind, start the Kosher New Year, with a hot and spicy matso ball soup, a plate of delicious latkes, washed down with a bottle of sparkling Manishevitz vino. And give three good cheers of "Ovey, Ovey, Ovey.". to ring in the New Jewish Year with Chutzbah.sixofthebestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-65218514576188577192011-09-26T12:37:15.596-07:002011-09-26T12:37:15.596-07:00Sometimes words feel so superficial, particularly ...Sometimes words feel so superficial, particularly words in a small comment box on a public blog.<br /><br />So, first and foremost I'll go with: ugh.<br /><br />Secondly, you do sorta look like the Verizon girl. <br /><br />Anything else I could say just comes out as a pile of worthless words. You are you. Everyone accepts you as that, regardless of your age. I've told you a hundred times (perhaps more) that I don't see your age, I see YOU.Craig Aychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853109320153985359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-76602466233753556802011-09-26T12:24:59.383-07:002011-09-26T12:24:59.383-07:00Erica,
Don't torture yourself. Think it thro...Erica,<br /><br />Don't torture yourself. Think it through and do what you think is the best for you.<br /><br />BTW, I hope I didn't inundate you.Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-78676112686941475992011-09-26T11:58:27.170-07:002011-09-26T11:58:27.170-07:00I guess I'm the only one that's gonna say ...I guess I'm the only one that's gonna say ... DO IT!<br /><br />I say this... as one that is in the same damned position.. (almost) -- but one thing doctors look at (good ones).. is ... "Is this woman doing this for all the right reasons". NEXT... the money hungry types will just do whatever if the almighty dollar is coming in.<br /><br />I'd research another doctor or two. They ALL give free consults. (I've gotten many) LOL -- anyhow... considering how EMPOWERING this will be for you.. it very well could facilitate other avenues of "making money". NOW, I'm not talking making money "that old fashioned way"... I'm talking YOU having the confidence to go out in the business world and sell yourself!<br /><br />It's amazing what a little self esteem will do for ya.<br /><br />And that's my story and I'm stickin' to it.<br /><br />...so there. :-)Zellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11494715566773544405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-75093632321852878482011-09-26T11:48:51.518-07:002011-09-26T11:48:51.518-07:00you missed one essential part: I said 'young l...you missed one essential part: I said 'young lady'.MrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28399118885944712632011-09-26T10:57:13.419-07:002011-09-26T10:57:13.419-07:00Jade -- it's OK. You're very sweet and I a...Jade -- it's OK. You're very sweet and I appreciate the thought, but it's a lot of money. And yes... I am very lucky to have John.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-59281355351328462232011-09-26T10:44:37.814-07:002011-09-26T10:44:37.814-07:00Hi Erica, I am VERY sorry that you feel so sad and...Hi Erica, I am VERY sorry that you feel so sad and depressed :-( Your VERY BEAUTIFUL inside and out :-) I wish i had the money cause i would send it to you, maybe i can raise the money some how to help you out :-)Your VERY lucky to have John he is an AWESOME guy. LOVE YOU Big hugs to you ALWAYS From your naughty girl Jade XOXOjadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-43963624457486500142011-09-26T10:26:13.755-07:002011-09-26T10:26:13.755-07:00Beth -- I don't doubt your sincerity, and I ap...Beth -- I don't doubt your sincerity, and I appreciate it. Thank you.<br /><br />For what it's worth, after I met you Friday night at SL, I blurted to Craig, "She's ADORABLE!" Honest. Ask him. :-)<br /><br />Dave -- I have researched cosmetic surgery (more than I should, probably). This is one of those "you get what you pay for" cases. You've seen 'em out there -- the pulled-back faces, the swollen lips, the waxen, stiff expressions. The uber-skilled (and yes, expensive) docs don't make you look like that. They just make people wonder why you're not ageing.<br /><br />MrJ -- yes, he's is the voice of reason and pragmatism, for sure.<br /><br />joey -- thank you, dear.<br /><br />Hermione -- tell me about it. Welcome to the American health insurance system.<br /><br />KF -- we do get mixed messages. Our friends tell us we're beautiful, but society, industry, etc. tells us we're old. One has to have the strongest of self-esteem to ignore the latter... and sadly, I do not.<br /><br />Sarah -- thank you, sweetie. I know John is right... I just hate it. Thing is, I feel like others DO see the flaws I see. My mother would sit and watch TV and pick apart women's faces and bodies on the screen. I figured, if she does that, others must too, right? <br /><br />Dana -- I agree with you 100% about how selfish is not a bad word (which is one of my square-peg-isms, but I don't care). And I applaud you for the things you did for yourself. Remember, though... you are young, and you were even younger when you did them. You had financial recovery time. Me? Not so much. In this economy, being jobless, plundering what savings I have for my vanity would be... well, you know. (sigh)<br /><br />Kaki -- as the expression goes, ageing is not for the faint-hearted. It's very easy for people to preach about how looks don't matter, but they don't live inside our heads.<br /><br />LOL... a bookstore would be lovely, if the damn things weren't going out of business right and left!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.com