tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post791262169375792179..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: Elephant syndromeEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-44780492977530652282011-06-23T22:27:21.100-07:002011-06-23T22:27:21.100-07:00MisterBlister -- I like the way you think! :-) Tha...MisterBlister -- I like the way you think! :-) Thank you.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-52250565333217711162011-06-23T22:07:32.275-07:002011-06-23T22:07:32.275-07:00Erica, in my book holding a grudge is a good thing...Erica, in my book holding a grudge is a good thing. It reflects that you have values--that some things in life are not easily overlooked or forgotten--and that is as Nature intended, I believe. Of course, like anything else, you can overdo it; allow it to rule your life. But most people are not prone to that. I think we're sometimes a little too quick to forgive and forget. It lets the wrongdoer off the hook a little too easily. So I for one think you're entitled to hold the view that you have of this creep. If more people censured these jerks, they might lose a little of their arrogance and impulse to needlessly criticize others. Karma is a bitch--and to my great surprise and ultimate delight, I've discovered that it's actually real when it matters!MisterBlisternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-91010927273020909152011-06-23T19:49:52.892-07:002011-06-23T19:49:52.892-07:00iggy -- right?? What's wrong with these people...iggy -- right?? What's wrong with these people, dammit?Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-88778348068475951262011-06-23T19:17:17.589-07:002011-06-23T19:17:17.589-07:00I'm a grudge holder, I have to admit. It driv...I'm a grudge holder, I have to admit. It drives me bonkers if a friend of mine comments on something someone who irks me wrote. I'm always thinking "don't talk to them, he/she is an idiot, don't you see it??!!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-30734304802310684782011-06-22T23:10:52.879-07:002011-06-22T23:10:52.879-07:00Jade -- you'll never hear me say to anyone &qu...Jade -- you'll never hear me say to anyone "I'll always be here for you." I don't think it's humanly possible to always be there, and I don't think it's right to promise it.<br /><br />Lea -- I like to think I can judge people fairly well. Sometimes, my ego takes over, when I see someone who is obviously such an asshat, and I think "HOW can anyone like this person? Why don't they know what I know?" But that's not my business, really.<br /><br />Bobbie Jo -- if there were such a thing as a "letting go" pill, I'd certainly seek a prescription.<br /><br />Craig -- makes sense. Writing about this crap is one of the things that prevents me from doing/saying things I might regret.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-64023572890120553212011-06-22T22:27:41.458-07:002011-06-22T22:27:41.458-07:00As we've talked before, we're all bitter, ...As we've talked before, we're all bitter, spiteful and angry at times. It's what we do with it that separates us from the assholes. Generally, we'r provoked into eliciting those kinds of emotions, while the assholes generate those feelings all on their own.<br /><br />Just my two cents.Craig Aychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853109320153985359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-33829843427947942552011-06-22T20:45:58.440-07:002011-06-22T20:45:58.440-07:00Boy can I relate! I have a major problem letting ...Boy can I relate! I have a major problem letting go of things and I tend to try to "fix" stuff in my mind to make it "right". I especially have a problem if I believe I was right and I was not listened to. An example is when I was falsly accused of twisting another girl's arm at school and the teacher didn't even listen to my side of the story and made me get up in front of class and appologize for something I didn't do. That still bothers me. <br /><br />I just don't seem to be able to let go. I am talking about it with my therapist, too, and I am not sure I will ever get to where I can just let go of the past instead of trying to fix it, which I can't, and so it goes. I just wonder sometimes what it is about it that makes it so hard to let go of a lot of things that really don't matter anymore. I think about them and I get angry all over again and wish I could tell them off. It really is an enigma.Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28560931253271172572011-06-22T20:42:34.759-07:002011-06-22T20:42:34.759-07:00I also remember EVERYTHING. Unfortunately, it seem...I also remember EVERYTHING. Unfortunately, it seems to be human nature that your mind latches on to the one bad comment about something amongst 50 complimentary comments. Those things I try to put to the back of my mind but they are still there. <br /><br />There are people I'd rather avoid, lots of weirdos on FL of course, but I try to keep it to myself unless a friend directly asked me what I thought of the person. I have also been warned about some people over the years by friends I trusted, and I took their comments to heart. I think my friends tend to be good judges of character, and I bet you are too. Better safe than sorry. I'd rather miss a chance on getting to know someone than risk being outted by some douchebag.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-74126120209228956692011-06-22T19:05:39.715-07:002011-06-22T19:05:39.715-07:00Hello my dear Erica, When it come's to grudge&...Hello my dear Erica, When it come's to grudge's i know how you feel cause i feel the same way, I had a few creep's do TERRIBLE thing's to me in my life and i know i could NEVER forgive these idiot's cause they hurt me VERY badly :-( I hate when someone tell's me that they will alway's be here for me then they toss me aside like a piece of trash i don't like people that lie it's because of them that i don't trust anyone :-( then i end up feeling worthless cause of what someone did and i blame myself for it but all along it was their fault not mine they were the loser's not me :-)I Love you my dear friend big hug's xoxo From your naughty girl Jadejadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-55339803335952070682011-06-22T15:18:46.910-07:002011-06-22T15:18:46.910-07:00joey -- I do try to protect my friends; I recently...joey -- I do try to protect my friends; I recently warned a gal pal when I saw a well-known creepazoid on FetLife glomming onto her. However... there is a fine line between protecting, and telling other people what to do and whom to befriend. I tread it carefully.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-9997131641286336572011-06-22T15:02:23.285-07:002011-06-22T15:02:23.285-07:00Erica,
There are plenty of creeps in this world. Y...Erica,<br />There are plenty of creeps in this world. You are very right in trying to warn your friends. That is not carrying a grudge, it is a friend helping a friend. In the group I belong to misbehavior is not tolerated and we do protect each other especially the ladies from the creeps.<br />joeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-39816478042070395222011-06-22T14:23:13.613-07:002011-06-22T14:23:13.613-07:00She -- blech! At least this jackass isn't my n...She -- blech! At least this jackass isn't my neighbor. We give others way too much power, don't we? Welcome, by the way. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-21678100552959822812011-06-22T13:45:37.745-07:002011-06-22T13:45:37.745-07:00I have this neighbor (I live on a military post an...I have this neighbor (I live on a military post and we live in townhome style buidlings.) I live in D she lives in B.<br /><br />Well, she made friends with this girl that I thought was nice, too. This girl ended up not being very nice, and insulted me on my facebook (quite rudely, I might add). I was just trying to be nice when this happened, and that made it all the more worse. <br /><br />I talked to my friend about it and asked her to not have this girl around (afterall, her and I were BEST friends and her and this girl were just acquaintances.)<br /><br />But no. It wasn't happening. The girl was about to go through a deployment and my friend felt the need to be there for her, (even though her lack of friends is probably her own damn fault!). It put a strain on our friendship, and now I feel so.. uncomfortable. <br /><br />This girl comes over all the time now, and it drives me insane because I feel like I'm allowing her so much control over me.<br /><br />I take it day by day and keep reminding myself that I just need to focus on me, and my family. Hiding in my house and allowing her to make me feel uncomfortable is doing nothing but letting her 'win'. So now? I go outside when she's there, I laugh, I socialize, I do my own thing.<br />Guess what happened once I started doing that? Bitch hasn't been back for over two weeks! =D<br /><br />You're not alone! There are plenty of us that have a problem with grudges.A.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02689334551771975392noreply@blogger.com