tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post6601754555255387949..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: A Public Service Announcement -- Very ImportantEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-47922191259366127862013-12-22T21:04:31.452-08:002013-12-22T21:04:31.452-08:00Ron -- it seems to have blown over, thank goodness...Ron -- it seems to have blown over, thank goodness.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-19963490458445568132013-12-22T05:53:28.112-08:002013-12-22T05:53:28.112-08:00That is just aweful and hideous, good lord.
Hope...That is just aweful and hideous, good lord. <br /><br />Hope it all sorts out.<br />Always<br />RonNjspankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07839344536156873192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-71304342495743898472013-12-21T15:41:38.667-08:002013-12-21T15:41:38.667-08:00Dana -- thanks, sweetie. Yes indeed, she is.
Herm...Dana -- thanks, sweetie. Yes indeed, she is.<br /><br />Hermione -- it's been three weeks, so we do feel like it's safe now (safe being relative, of course).Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-52887111994005104012013-12-21T04:28:47.165-08:002013-12-21T04:28:47.165-08:00How awful for both of you. It's like your wors...How awful for both of you. It's like your worst nightmare coming true. The advice you have given will probably save others from a similar fate.<br /><br />I can't tell you how many emails I have received from spankos who display their real names in the email. Mine did too, when I first set up my blog's email account. Luckily, the first email I sent went to someone trustworthy, and as soon as I saw what I had done, I figured out how to change the name to Hermione.<br /><br />I hope you are both feeling safer now. <br /><br />Hugs to you both,<br />HermioneHermionehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-8461022854164620482013-12-21T01:07:49.775-08:002013-12-21T01:07:49.775-08:00Erica,
I have only one thing to say:
What a Bitc...Erica,<br /><br />I have only one thing to say:<br /><br />What a Bitch!<br /><br />Love to you and John,<br />Dana <br /><br />Oh, and a little PS: If you'd like some help tracking HER down, just let me know. She probably has some things she'd not like shared either.Dana Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09812277151171226272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-82770336247085960802013-12-19T14:51:32.698-08:002013-12-19T14:51:32.698-08:00Anonymous -- what a dreadful story. I'm so sor...Anonymous -- what a dreadful story. I'm so sorry that happened to you. :-( What the hell is it with people??Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-70494670622935027142013-12-19T14:34:43.888-08:002013-12-19T14:34:43.888-08:00Erica,
You and John have my sympathy. You know me ...Erica,<br />You and John have my sympathy. You know me but I am anonymous now due to having a similar experience. I was outed and not for money but by an unhinged person just because it pleased her. I read you (and other friends from my previous life) very often. I lost a lot , my home, my job but I moved, found a new job and rebuilt. I do not think I can ever be me online again. I am glad you wrote this as a warning to others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-63375075595505580282013-12-18T22:42:48.681-08:002013-12-18T22:42:48.681-08:00Anonymous -- you know what's really weird? I p...Anonymous -- you know what's really weird? I posted this on FetLife as well... it created a freaking tsunami. I've gotten over 1000 loves and nearly 300 comments, and they're still coming. Most of them are "thank you." Go figure, huh? I know what you mean, though. The problem with being discreet on a kinky site is that people tend to automatically assume you have something to hide, or you're not really who you say you are. (sigh) It's a tough call.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-63681992938763302102013-12-18T20:54:23.540-08:002013-12-18T20:54:23.540-08:00Thanks for writing this, Erica. I like Fetlife, bu...Thanks for writing this, Erica. I like Fetlife, but in the past I've found several of the threads concerning privacy and "place" irritating. For example, there's almost a resentment or distrust of people who use "Anarctica" as a place. I've always felt that listing Anarctica as a place was honest in the sense of "I'm not going to tell you where I'm from immediately, but I'm also not going to lie which I could do easily by using a more realistic but wrong location." <br /><br />I've also felt privacy concerns were sometimes trivialized in the following way: you shouldn't worry about divulging your kinky side to someone you know on Fetlife because if they're here, they're also kinky. The problem is that this seems to ignore the fact that there isn't always an equal balance on what one person vs. another has to lose if their kinkiness is made public.<br /><br />Anyway, thanks for your post and I'm wishing John privacy (and less wacky contacts) in the future.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-67276085748898510542013-12-18T15:34:02.256-08:002013-12-18T15:34:02.256-08:00Jade -- I think he will be OK. We're holding g...Jade -- I think he will be OK. We're holding good thoughts, and each day that goes by where he doesn't hear from her makes us feel a little better.<br /><br />Hal -- thanks.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-38773761516623346602013-12-18T15:31:19.495-08:002013-12-18T15:31:19.495-08:00I am well aware that you do not like Christmas ver...I am well aware that you do not like Christmas very much if at all. Now to add this to December is just going to make it worse - I hope this is over and John is safe. I agree with Maji - You both need lots of hugs. Hal Halhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18092992382681146660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28717607289287174352013-12-18T12:23:34.089-08:002013-12-18T12:23:34.089-08:00Hi Erica - Hope you feel better soon.Poor John he ...Hi Erica - Hope you feel better soon.Poor John he doesn't deserve this :-( It makes me sick,how some people treat others,This woman is a greedy selfish Bitch,You and John don't need the added stress :-( So sorry this happened to him.I hope that skanky woman is gone for good,the crook that she is.Thanks for sharing the resources,It will come in handy if anyone should need help.Sending much Love and hugs to you and John :-) I back you both up 100% From naughty girl Jadejadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-83214008354619013562013-12-18T10:21:57.632-08:002013-12-18T10:21:57.632-08:00Sandy -- that's our hope as well.
Ronnie -- a...Sandy -- that's our hope as well.<br /><br />Ronnie -- a little bit, thanks. Still a bit shaky and tired, but I'm up and about.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-21424889709108653692013-12-18T09:02:14.829-08:002013-12-18T09:02:14.829-08:00Erica,
Scary. Thanks for sharing this with us.
H...Erica,<br /><br />Scary. Thanks for sharing this with us.<br /><br />Hope you are feeling a little better today.<br /><br />Hugs for both of you.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-971138036490297632013-12-18T04:17:48.113-08:002013-12-18T04:17:48.113-08:00Wow, that's really horrible. Thinking of you t...Wow, that's really horrible. Thinking of you two and hoping it has blown over. Ms. Cassandra (Sandy) Parkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06868672752765383585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-86636332364587822882013-12-17T21:52:15.505-08:002013-12-17T21:52:15.505-08:00Bobbie Jo -- no, we can't. I hope I've bee...Bobbie Jo -- no, we can't. I hope I've been able to help someone else avoid this.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-57086037921486525402013-12-17T19:48:39.878-08:002013-12-17T19:48:39.878-08:00Thank you for putting this up, Erica. You have do...Thank you for putting this up, Erica. You have done many a great service. I am so sorry you and John had to deal with that creep and I hope it never happens again. I made a change to make things a bit safer for me because of this and I plan on making some more. We can't be too sure of things anymore.Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-63827830396335733492013-12-17T17:23:44.501-08:002013-12-17T17:23:44.501-08:00Abel -- thank you so much.
Pam -- you know, for t...Abel -- thank you so much.<br /><br />Pam -- you know, for these people, it isn't even about hurting. It's a business. A horrible business.<br /><br />Six -- thank you. I could use those hugs. Steve didn't make it after all.<br /><br />Mija -- unfortunately, I won't see John until Friday. But I will certainly pass on your hug. Thanks.<br /><br />MrJ -- thank you.<br /><br />Craig -- squirm-inducing is a good term for it. Thank you for your care.<br /><br />HH -- I sure hope so too.<br /><br />Chief -- you're very kind. No need to apologize for repeating the message here. I'm so sorry that happened to you. When it's personal, it's even worse, I think. :-(<br /><br />Sarah -- I think that's the way to go. I never thought about it before, but email is a common pitfall. So obvious, and yet not.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-16022643325539758622013-12-17T17:08:57.601-08:002013-12-17T17:08:57.601-08:00How scary!! There are certainly some slimey people...How scary!! There are certainly some slimey people out there! Hopefully you'll not hear from this person again, but still! What a horrible thing to be faces with! <br /><br />I've always used pseudonyms or initials when signing up for emails, and also have multiples for kink and vanilla contacts! sarah thornehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07297956738875001690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-1409835789492276172013-12-17T15:53:10.382-08:002013-12-17T15:53:10.382-08:00Hi Erica, I am sorry that both are having to deal ...Hi Erica, I am sorry that both are having to deal with this. I'm also sorry for cross-posting my reply from FetLife, but I know some of your readers aren't on there, and I have some information I'd like to add for people's safety considerations. I would never kibitz like this if it weren't a safety issue. <br /><br />I went through something similar, only she wasn't in it for the money; she was an unbalanced person who took it all very personally. When I say unbalanced, I mean she defined the world around her in terms of "the mean people who want to hurt me," and once you come into contact with someone like that you will inevitably become one of those "mean people."<br /><br />Not yet knowing she was unbalanced, I took all the proper precautions, with one small brain fart - I forgot to *67 before I called her, and that's how she got through my defences. Once she had my phone number, she had the ability to destroy me unless I gave her what she wanted and she damn well tried to when I pulled away from her. The only thing that saved my @$$ is that I was already out to 96% of the people she outted me to and the other 4% had already heard rumours. Regrettably, when the outing failed, she took it to the next level.<br /><br />Be aware that websites like MyLife have your info whether you've given it to them or not. Even if you don't have an account there, they have your info. I found that out because for about a year after my bad experience, I kept getting e-mails from MyLife telling me that someone with my stalker/outters name was searching for me on the website. I'd never heard of MyLife, and when I went there to see what it was all about I found they had not just my information, but information on everyone in my household as well as extended family members. She used that information to target members of my family, which included a minor who at the time was under the age of 10. <br /><br />Once a crazy person or a romance scammer gets just a sliver of your info, they can find out everything else very quickly. <br /><br />You and John are in my thoughts and I'm sending positive energy your way. I wish I was out there and could take you both to dinner and a show or something to try and cheer you up. DaChiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15053433263844558221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28033252575241767022013-12-17T15:36:35.897-08:002013-12-17T15:36:35.897-08:00That's a really awful story, Erica. I do hope ...That's a really awful story, Erica. I do hope she fades away at this point. But hugs for both of you.<br /><br />HHHHhttp://artofpunishment.blogspot.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-74777719457077355312013-12-17T15:22:11.076-08:002013-12-17T15:22:11.076-08:00Thanks for sharing, Erica. This kind of situation ...Thanks for sharing, Erica. This kind of situation is so troubling because we all can imagine ourselves in that situation. Many of us are out to family and friends, but most likely aren't out at work, so this is certainly a squirm-inducing story we all can relate to. Your advice is heeded and most appreciated.<br /><br />Please give John our best. Both myself and Lizzie are thinking best thoughts for you both.Craig Aychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853109320153985359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-25076382585312151412013-12-17T14:34:11.987-08:002013-12-17T14:34:11.987-08:00This is incredibly apalling.
Best wishes in all re...This is incredibly apalling.<br />Best wishes in all respect. Acept my hugs and feel better soon ;-))MrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28223714492210555012013-12-17T14:31:33.658-08:002013-12-17T14:31:33.658-08:00Thank you for posting this Erica. I'm so sorr...Thank you for posting this Erica. I'm so sorry the two of you are going through this. Hug John for me. And have him hug you. Mijahttp://www.eltercerojo.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-3038138130896189832013-12-17T14:25:24.717-08:002013-12-17T14:25:24.717-08:00Erica, here is a big HUG, from me. And I am sure a...Erica, here is a big HUG, from me. And I am sure all of us 'spanko's are in your corner, after reading your latest blog, will give you the same. You are a feisty fighter, for the rights of all us 'spanko's. And I am sure you will come out a winner in this one too. XXX Luv yasixofthebestnoreply@blogger.com