tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post5773605180417560226..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: The "Catfish" phenomenonEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-34030469346540481652013-02-02T14:26:41.773-08:002013-02-02T14:26:41.773-08:00Lea -- the term's been floating around for a c...Lea -- the term's been floating around for a couple of years, but it really surged to the forefront recently with Te'o thing. I always thought a sock puppet was more restricted to an online forum thing, but I could be mistaken.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-81966601635542902082013-02-01T23:25:34.471-08:002013-02-01T23:25:34.471-08:00Thanks for defining what the hell "catfish&qu...Thanks for defining what the hell "catfish" means! I've seen the term pop up lately and heard reference to a TV show, but didn't know that's what it was referring to. I'm used to the "sock puppet" term online.<br /><br />You are right about trusting your instincts and that this kind of thing can happen to anyone. The internet just provides more ways for people to hide anonymously and these things to happen. I'm glad things didn't take a worse turn with you and C.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-8229901309087020172013-01-30T12:12:26.958-08:002013-01-30T12:12:26.958-08:00Karl -- oh, thank you for that link! The writer is...Karl -- oh, thank you for that link! The writer is so spot on, and funny. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-69319260353938385692013-01-30T10:22:34.644-08:002013-01-30T10:22:34.644-08:00I know that just don't want to be a jerk about...I know that just don't want to be a jerk about it!<br />Always<br />RonNjspankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07839344536156873192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-30263732030181610012013-01-30T04:57:40.339-08:002013-01-30T04:57:40.339-08:00Fascinating account, Erica. Someday someone will w...Fascinating account, Erica. Someday someone will write a sociology of the internet, and this will be the sort of thing they talk about. BTW, I thought you might be amused by this tongue in cheek treatment of the topic under discussion: http://thoughtcatalog.com/2013/i-want-a-fake-girlfriend/<br /><br />Karl Friedrich GaussAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-25978624683301709422013-01-29T18:51:58.533-08:002013-01-29T18:51:58.533-08:00Kelly -- pathetic is exactly the word. They don...Kelly -- pathetic is exactly the word. They don't feel like they have lives, so they have to invent them. I'd feel sorry for them if they didn't do so much damage to others.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-37547335171839361972013-01-29T14:09:48.004-08:002013-01-29T14:09:48.004-08:00Craig -- oh dear. Purely an unfortunate coincidenc...Craig -- oh dear. Purely an unfortunate coincidence! :-) I'll pass on the show; if I wanted to watch the dregs of humanity, I'd watch, well, Honey BooBoo.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-62428378731717055692013-01-29T13:45:23.180-08:002013-01-29T13:45:23.180-08:00Wait. MY name starts with a C... ;-)
These storie...Wait. MY name starts with a C... ;-)<br /><br />These stories are more common than anyone cares to admit. Most people likely don't. And if you want more of this sorry train wreck you can check out Nev's series on the subject on MTV.Craig Aychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853109320153985359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-50650191018414782962013-01-29T13:19:30.203-08:002013-01-29T13:19:30.203-08:00Abby -- I was lucky in this case. Many aren't,...Abby -- I was lucky in this case. Many aren't, I'm afraid.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-5723541565528723982013-01-29T13:10:08.160-08:002013-01-29T13:10:08.160-08:00Such an important and worthwhile post.
People can...Such an important and worthwhile post. <br />People can be terribly hurt and damaged by online fraud and deceit. <br /><br />I am glad you were able to resolve it and find some peace. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15810181218264048683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-89328157667971004142013-01-29T11:06:09.698-08:002013-01-29T11:06:09.698-08:00Milt -- that Match.com story is awful. But I don&#...Milt -- that Match.com story is awful. But I don't see how they can be blamed. They simply provide a site where people can connect; if some psychos join and cleverly disguise it, how could Match have prevented that? (sigh) Another very complicated issue.<br /><br />Ronnie -- things had gotten so out of control with this situation, I was desperate to have it resolved, so I was willing to try anything. I had a sense that he was sincere, and sure enough, he was.<br /><br />MM -- rest assured. Aside from the occasional disgusted reference to Honey BooBoo, I don't write about stupid redneck reality TV. I can't stand that it even exists! :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-33165351111183903192013-01-29T10:17:05.614-08:002013-01-29T10:17:05.614-08:00You know I almost didn't read this one because...You know I almost didn't read this one because when I saw the term Catfish I was terrified it was going to be about the TV shows where Hill Billies stick their arms in a fish's mouth. <br /><br />Now thanks to you I'm much hipper and can am relieved it didn't conjure up images of my redneck neighbors. All kidding a side great article with good advice. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556670539025488577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-24292428347718006012013-01-29T07:24:28.452-08:002013-01-29T07:24:28.452-08:00Quite freaky. I was surprised you agreed to meet h...Quite freaky. I was surprised you agreed to meet him again. I wouldn't have. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing this Erica. Hope it helps others.<br /><br />Love,<br />Ronnie<br />xxronniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16402712634206383021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-60748967888235151552013-01-29T00:35:36.120-08:002013-01-29T00:35:36.120-08:00Again, great post. This whole thing sounds like so...Again, great post. This whole thing sounds like something Chris Hanson from Dateline would expose, just to let people know the fakes and or dangers of meeting someone online. Look at this thing about the woman that's suing Match.com... <br />Anyway take care,<br /><br />MiltMilthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205348437342945738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-6147012876416816272013-01-28T22:27:57.884-08:002013-01-28T22:27:57.884-08:00Ron -- you know, it's OK to disagree with me. ...Ron -- you know, it's OK to disagree with me. Many do. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-26640824739103334562013-01-28T20:27:05.649-08:002013-01-28T20:27:05.649-08:00This is hard for me because I so respect abd love ...This is hard for me because I so respect abd love who you are and I understand what you went thru....but this guy from good old ND is in on this scam. However I can not prove it but he broke one ideal and that is being sincere and honest. He lied and not that he can not be forgiven but he is not sincere; he became part of the scam. <br /><br />Unlike you and me, he is for some reason famous and he did in fact benefit from this scam! <br /><br />Sorry I so love you, sorry you went thru this buit this kid found out, his team found out and if ND was not blasted in it's final game one wonders were this would have gone. <br /><br />Sorry I do do love your blog and you but not with you on ND but so sorry about what you went through!<br /><br />Always<br />RonNjspankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07839344536156873192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-77088745452051684322013-01-28T19:56:15.482-08:002013-01-28T19:56:15.482-08:00Jade -- I'm fine, honey. It was a long time ag...Jade -- I'm fine, honey. It was a long time ago. And you guessed before I did!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-64863545930195242682013-01-28T19:49:55.993-08:002013-01-28T19:49:55.993-08:00Hi Erica -- OMG i am so glad you are alright,this ...Hi Erica -- OMG i am so glad you are alright,this was so FREAKY and scary,How can anyone pretend to be something that they are not.Thank's for the good advice i needed that,I agree be careful.I already guessed before i read it that this guy Brian really was C cause i had this feeling he was going to be.I am happy you are feeling better,I hope Mr.D feel's better soon so you can get your weekly spanking :-)<3 Much Love and hug's from naughty girl Jadejadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-42926310203927458092013-01-28T18:25:33.915-08:002013-01-28T18:25:33.915-08:00Bonnie -- same here. In my early scene days, I tal...Bonnie -- same here. In my early scene days, I talked myself into things that I instinctively felt weren't right to me, because I thought I "should" do them. Had some really crappy experiences because of that. But, live and learn (one hopes).<br /><br />Six -- I will. I promise.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-14950916119628058772013-01-28T18:09:39.763-08:002013-01-28T18:09:39.763-08:00Erica, all I can say is please. please be careful....Erica, all I can say is please. please be careful. XXX luv ya.sixofthebestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-30707838842597507322013-01-28T17:56:19.279-08:002013-01-28T17:56:19.279-08:00Hi Erica,
When you said, "if something doesn...Hi Erica,<br /><br />When you said, "if something doesn't quite feel right to you, then chances are, it isn't," you dispensed some incredible advice. I can't think of a single time when I acted against my intuition and didn't come to regret it.<br /><br />I've been fooled as well, and more than once. It's human nature to want to reach out to another person, especially when they ask for assistance. The lesson I've learned is that fishy stories are generally precisely that. I'll help anyone, but I have no time for games.Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-20045840292651159442013-01-28T17:38:44.383-08:002013-01-28T17:38:44.383-08:00MrJ -- we're working on it! :-)
Rich -- I rea...MrJ -- we're working on it! :-)<br /><br />Rich -- I really don't think you were dense! We all want to believe, you know? Blech... I remember "Annie Wilkes." Not only was it a man posing as a woman, but a psychotic movie character woman to boot! <br /><br />joey -- I hope so too! One of the things I love most about our scene is that we look out for one another.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-13635277472318666452013-01-28T17:33:30.101-08:002013-01-28T17:33:30.101-08:00Erica,
Thank you for an excellent post. I believ...Erica,<br /><br />Thank you for an excellent post. I believe that Manti is a young man who was duped, but also made some bad decisions.<br /><br />I think it is unfortunate that people are misled either online or in person. A couple of my vanilla friends have had expereices with Catfish, but usually guys who are trying to deceive someone. <br /><br />So, thanks for a very thoughtful post; I hope that your post helps others be more careful.<br /><br />Hug,<br />joeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-13805512265635773952013-01-28T16:42:16.321-08:002013-01-28T16:42:16.321-08:00Back in the SIN days I fell prey to this phenomeno...Back in the SIN days I fell prey to this phenomenon on at least two occasions that I remember. It's funny really that for one of them, one that I put a lot of effort in, I was told long before it was too late that I was setting myself up. This included long phone calls and many detailed emails.<br /><br />When it came time for the meeting I sat at home and waited for more than a day and listened to the excuses for the delay in arrival. Yep, I was so dense that I was totally fooled. Not only was she a no show, I never heard from her again after that weekend.<br /><br />Recently of course everyone on Fetlife was treated to the "Annie Wilkes" character that was created in an attempt discredit me as an individual and to sully my name. Of course it is going to take a bit more than that, lol, and it wasn't really catfishing as this was a guy with an apparent grudge against me. <br /><br />I would like to say that I am wiser for the experiences, but I don't know if that is true or not :)Richard Windsorhttp://richardwindsor.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-17639047558877487132013-01-28T16:21:28.216-08:002013-01-28T16:21:28.216-08:00Yes, Erica, being sincere is crucial as trust is c...Yes, Erica, being sincere is crucial as trust is crucial - certainly no less in cyberspace than in real life. <br />You guys get well soon!MrJnoreply@blogger.com