tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post4931892763541850768..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: A play partnership is not some generic thingEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-70942681327524386652013-07-28T21:03:10.427-07:002013-07-28T21:03:10.427-07:00Greeneyez -- very well said! Thank you.Greeneyez -- very well said! Thank you.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-70282822791925855302013-07-28T17:58:04.174-07:002013-07-28T17:58:04.174-07:00I feel as though technology, and the ability to co...I feel as though technology, and the ability to connect to so many people at once has many benefits, it has make some people view others as expendable or interchangeable because there are "plenty of fish in the sea". That's simply not the case. Someone can look great "on paper" but if there is no chemistry when you interact, then nothing on their profile can "fix" that. Good company is a precious gift, and suitable partners, spanking and/or romantic, are a rare gift and should be appreciated as such. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-61184141495336239282013-07-24T15:23:01.561-07:002013-07-24T15:23:01.561-07:00Lea -- LOL! I love nuts in just about everything. ...Lea -- LOL! I love nuts in just about everything. But yeah, I don't think they fit well in lemon bars.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-47521568944717697382013-07-24T15:05:42.610-07:002013-07-24T15:05:42.610-07:00Finally one thing we do NOT have in common- I hate...Finally one thing we do NOT have in common- I hate nuts in my brownies. My great uncle used to even make lemon bars with nuts in them and I'd get so mad. Why do you have to ruin them?? Lol. One thing I agree on is the musical laps idea. That doesn't appeal to me at all because I too need more than just a hand and a lap. Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08935712285136696225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-60634331202476828032013-07-23T14:30:26.116-07:002013-07-23T14:30:26.116-07:00Kelly -- the distance thing is tough. I have been ...Kelly -- the distance thing is tough. I have been lucky in recent years that I've found tops I loved who were local, but it wasn't always like that. And you're right; bottoms are no more interchangeable/dispensable than tops are.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-40810039673334519222013-07-23T14:27:29.412-07:002013-07-23T14:27:29.412-07:00It's very important for me to have chemistry w...It's very important for me to have chemistry with my spankers. Mostly that means a shared sense of humor, but I appreciate their physical attractiveness, too. And I like ones who are receptive to my preferences and refusals. <br /><br />Party scenes are less important to me, but I would prefer not getting spanked at all than to settle for ones from people who treat me as a "disposable ass."<br /><br />The biggest drawback to my "picky" preferences is all of my tops live far away from me-most in other states so my spankings have been relegated to fun hobby times. But that's the price I pay for the Quality vs Quantity choices. Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-12014977871509584102013-07-22T15:02:28.135-07:002013-07-22T15:02:28.135-07:00Pam -- oh, crap. I am so sorry. Of course you'...Pam -- oh, crap. I am so sorry. Of course you're mourning. Nearly four years is a long time. Give yourself time to heal and cry as you need to. Hugs to you.<br /><br />Jeez, 45 minutes? I drive between that an hour every week to go to John's. Pretty standard for L.A. :-(Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-75247247449635786132013-07-22T14:53:44.500-07:002013-07-22T14:53:44.500-07:00This post is very timely for me. After nearly 4 y...This post is very timely for me. After nearly 4 years with my recent play partner ended because he finally tired of the 45 min. drive between us. A little voice had told me this would happen 4 years ago because I would not want to drive that far all the time.<br /><br />It is hard to know where to try and even attempt to find someone new. Not only do you want to have the same leanings as far as kink goes, but also find that comfortable compatibility. The thought seems nearly overwhelming at the moment. It's hard not to get discouraged.<br /><br />I sincerely hope that most people do not feel that play partners are easily found, interchangeable, or "a dime a dozen." Finding the right one is like finding a priceless gem. Even emotionally, I mourn the loss when something good ends. Damn distance and traffic in southern California!<br /><br />PamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-48321154143597134332013-07-22T14:10:15.675-07:002013-07-22T14:10:15.675-07:00Six -- I have had several play partners over the y...Six -- I have had several play partners over the years. Not one of them has been interchangeable with another. All unique, all lovely. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-30811851900174445962013-07-22T13:27:35.973-07:002013-07-22T13:27:35.973-07:00Erica, on this issue, I agree with you, For a play...Erica, on this issue, I agree with you, For a play partner in my opinion is 'one of a kind', If he or she fits in your scheme of things, as you rightly said. The jigsaw puzzle fits like a glove. Comfortable. XXX Luv yasixofthebestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-81666854749183180882013-07-22T13:19:29.396-07:002013-07-22T13:19:29.396-07:00Jade -- thanks. :-)
Ron -- glad you have what you...Jade -- thanks. :-)<br /><br />Ron -- glad you have what you need.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-24232904951895147302013-07-22T12:47:14.863-07:002013-07-22T12:47:14.863-07:00Really well done Erica and I so agree, one of the ...Really well done Erica and I so agree, one of the reasons I have so much trouble finding a spanking partner, lap or bottom is because I am totally choosy. I am lucky right now as I have one of each but totally well done post and comments. <br />Also not a brownie fan but when I do, yes sticky but nice and crunchy on the outside.<br />ALWAYS<br />RonNjspankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07839344536156873192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-16752466866771596452013-07-22T12:27:27.846-07:002013-07-22T12:27:27.846-07:00Hi Erica -- I totally agree with you, on this subj...Hi Erica -- I totally agree with you, on this subject :-) I am choosy about who spanks me too.I Like getting spanked OTK by male and female.A spanking partner is VERY different than your significant other.You Love John and he is irreplaceable :-) With Steve the relationship is very special. In terms of a spanking partner.I never played musical laps before, it sounds like fun LOL Much Love and hugs from naughty girl Jade.jadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-34309989274203467172013-07-22T08:40:40.896-07:002013-07-22T08:40:40.896-07:00joey -- you get it. :-)
Anonymous -- it wouldn...joey -- you get it. :-)<br /><br />Anonymous -- it wouldn't work for everyone, certainly. I'm just grateful it does for me; my life is richer for it.<br /><br />OBB -- I guess it would be fun if you know everyone. But at a larger party with a lot of people I don't know, I'd find it dreadfully awkward.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-11667880026881254972013-07-22T06:54:58.233-07:002013-07-22T06:54:58.233-07:00I think most people don't demand much of a rel...I think most people don't demand much of a relationship, including marriage. That's why they can discard them with such ease. Spanko's desire something deeper and are a lot more choosy?<br /><br />PS Played musical laps a few times. It was a good ice breaker with lots of laughs and with women throwing each other under the bus.Our Bottoms Burnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11365742469460740718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-73418024494019225742013-07-22T04:51:01.656-07:002013-07-22T04:51:01.656-07:00I heartily agree, Erica, people aren't interch...I heartily agree, Erica, people aren't interchangeable. Not just in a spanking relationship (or romantic relationship), but in general. I think it's a difficult line to walk to keep everyone happy in a situation like yours where you have a significant other and a play partner. There is a delicate balance and it's no good trying to swap pieces or introduce new desserts (mixing the metaphors here).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-76464639121267424422013-07-22T02:13:17.744-07:002013-07-22T02:13:17.744-07:00Erica,
All of my spanking relationships are speci...Erica,<br /><br />All of my spanking relationships are special. The connection and chemistry is different with each person, but each person is more than just someone I play with. Many men I meet in the scene want to spank a female, but do not want to first connect with the person. For me, spanking brings me closer to my play partners and complements our friendship.<br /><br />Your connection with Steve is very strong. I can tell it is very, very special. Yet, very different than your love of John.<br /><br />Hug,<br />joey<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com