tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post3877355296428615839..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: EvolutionEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-27550117070312235302015-02-04T12:33:54.584-08:002015-02-04T12:33:54.584-08:00Erica
Wonderful post, simple for me I am still th...Erica<br /><br />Wonderful post, simple for me I am still the OTK and traditional implements but have branched out for fun and well.....it is fun, but to bring me back to the place, a long hard OTK spanking works.<br />ALways<br />RonNjspankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07839344536156873192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-40907151735800748812015-02-02T12:33:48.818-08:002015-02-02T12:33:48.818-08:00Enzo -- I like your analogy. Not liking a certain ...Enzo -- I like your analogy. Not liking a certain food doesn't mean you're unenlightened or narrow-minded; it simply means you don't care for it. (Oh, and I love salmon, shrimp and pretty much every kind of shellfish/seafood. Always have.)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-6671484044152995362015-02-02T11:35:19.920-08:002015-02-02T11:35:19.920-08:00I'm not sure evolution is the correct word for...I'm not sure evolution is the correct word for most people. Perhaps expanded ( I know that sounds funny, but follow me for a minute). Lets agree if we don't keep growing/evolving you become stagnate, but having an open mind is growth as well. Being open to seeing new things and understanding, in this case, why certain people like certain things is growth and expansion of your knowledge. In other terms lets compare it to food tastes and say you had never tried seafood. One day you try salmon and you don't especially care for it but you try shrimp and you love that. Are you not evolved because you don like all seafood? Should you be forced to love all seafood? I think not.<br /><br />As far as my own expansion or growth; let's just say I was happy to discover years ago that I am not the only person who likes seafood.<br />Enzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11556688278392257042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-42720480365861766482015-02-02T10:16:55.735-08:002015-02-02T10:16:55.735-08:00Six -- great. Now all the wannabes will be floodin...Six -- great. Now all the wannabes will be flooding the stores, buying toys they have no idea how to use. I think the ERs should get ready, too.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-71934227916977459082015-02-02T08:05:38.808-08:002015-02-02T08:05:38.808-08:00Erica, in todays NEW YORK TIIMES dated Monday FEB ...Erica, in todays NEW YORK TIIMES dated Monday FEB 2nd 2015 there is a two page article on the upcoming movie "50 Shades of Grey, discussing the adult stores getting ready their so called 'toys'. they will sell. One other surprising store is TARGET, which will also make a pitch to sell its 'vibrating love ring''. XXX Luv ya.sixofthebestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-65341899263195195152015-02-01T22:03:11.473-08:002015-02-01T22:03:11.473-08:00Jade -- change is not a bad thing, as long as it&#...Jade -- change is not a bad thing, as long as it's of our choosing, I think. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-33159251335303412972015-02-01T22:01:35.990-08:002015-02-01T22:01:35.990-08:00Hi Erica -- I am glad you brought this subject up,...Hi Erica -- I am glad you brought this subject up, GREAT job :-) I am strictly a bottom. My favorite spanking position is OTK :-) I like to get spanked by a female, but I would consider, getting spanked by a male but I would have to trust him.I would like to try new implements :-) I definitely want to be in a spanking video, that would be AWESOME :-) Maybe I changed a little bit but not much. I have a scene name now it's Emily Jean. Much Love and hugs to you always.You are the BEST :-) <br />jadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-68065622818313076372015-02-01T17:30:59.608-08:002015-02-01T17:30:59.608-08:00Kelly -- there is definitely something to be said ...Kelly -- there is definitely something to be said for the unexpected. I do like playing with someone who varies things, changes up the tempo and intensity, etc. I don't like knowing exactly what's coming. However, it does have to fall within my realm of limits. I don't like surprises that violate those, you know?Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-68425305562383318792015-02-01T17:26:01.397-08:002015-02-01T17:26:01.397-08:00I'm pretty set in my ways as to what I will ag...I'm pretty set in my ways as to what I will agree/disagree to concerning my spanking scenarios.<br />One thing I do enjoy experimenting with is different spanking intensities. I've had many spankings which began over clothing at light to moderate intensities and eventually progressed to harder even to severe force once it was onto bare butt. OTHER times I've been bared almost immediately and the harder spanks either by hand or implement were in motion right away. I enjoy all of those types and with the right tops know those "surprises" will continue for my spanking adventures. :)Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-51320289228974540352015-02-01T16:42:02.756-08:002015-02-01T16:42:02.756-08:00Bonnie -- thank you! I think when you've been ...Bonnie -- thank you! I think when you've been doing it as long as you two are, it's not really necessary to keep trying new stuff. I mean, you've already tried it all, it seems. And if you've reached a niche that makes both of you happy (and you don't go for play with multiple partners, which you don't), then there's no need to fix it if it ain't broke.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-11937825831341966722015-02-01T08:25:28.326-08:002015-02-01T08:25:28.326-08:00Hi Erica,
My answer is yes and no.
Randy and I h...Hi Erica,<br /><br />My answer is yes and no.<br /><br />Randy and I have been together since the seventies. In all that time, we've pretty much tried everything that appeals to either of us. Some parts were good and we adopted them into our repertoire. Other activities didn't work and we shelved them.<br /><br />Today, we don't really add anything new. It's more a matter of combining old favorites in new ways. We're spankos and bottom whacking will always be the center of our kink. Anything else we do is essentially an add-on.<br /><br />We have evolved/changed, I guess, but always within the bounds of our well established values, preferences, and desires.<br /><br />BTW, your beach photos are absolutely beautiful!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />BonnieBonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09061952016296339760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-91348339638321112202015-01-31T16:25:58.295-08:002015-01-31T16:25:58.295-08:00Michael -- thank you for this. That's a very c...Michael -- thank you for this. That's a very cool story.<br /><br />"A process of compromise or negotiation between our desires and the desires of others." Yes. That. And if you're lucky, you find others whose desires run along (basically) the same lines as your own. Sometimes, the compromises/negotiations can introduce something new and wonderful. Other times, they can totally flop.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-76740228412310414852015-01-31T00:12:17.566-08:002015-01-31T00:12:17.566-08:00First, I don't think there's anything wron...First, I don't think there's anything wrong with finding something you like and sticking with it. I say this as someone who's eaten the same lunch for 55 years.<br /><br />I also don't think there's anything wrong with trying new things to see if we like them. I say that as someone who tried salmon for the first time at a Shadowlane dinner when in his 50s and discovered it was delicious.<br /><br />As to kink, my journey was probably very atypical (if there's any such thing as typical). I started off (as an early teen) extremely hard core. It was all fantasy for me, informed by a wide variety of mainstream culture influences from the playful spankings in John Wayne movies to a gory scene in a novel (involving a riding crop with a steel core that winds up slippery with blood -- it was a novel someone gave my mother and I can't for the life of me figure out what the title was), from flogging scenes in British Navy movies to one line in an old novel about a cabin boy trained at the boot toe of a steward (that led to kicking fantasies), to the testicle-beating scene in the novel (and much later movie) Casino Royale, to (a few years later) de Sade novels and quasi-academic tomes on "The History of Torture" in my college library. I was a self-hating sadist, so it didn't much matter than nine-tenths of what I fantasized about would be totally inappropriate to do with a consensual partner -- I didn't know there was any such thing.<br /><br />Gradually over several decades, in steps I can no longer remember (though, considering how important they were to me, it seems like I should remember), I came to realize there were people who did this sort of thing on purpose, but I had no idea how to find them. I also developed more appropriate fantasies for what I'd like to do if I ever did find them (that is, what it would be like to be in a consensual spanking relationship), but they were poorly informed fantasies.<br /><br />Then, 16 or so years ago, came the Internet, and I discovered there was a community of kinksters with an entire subculture that was related to but very different from my fantasies. I learned what people actually do in consensual play; learned the differences between spanking and BDSM; attended a fetish and fantasy fair once and a went to a dungeon once; started reading stories, looking at stills, viewing videos, participating in forums, and attending parties. And, obviously, in that process my tastes changed to be oriented toward what is possible, what is available, what my potential partners wanted to do. That's how actual life is, a process of compromise or negotiation between our desires and the desires of others.<br /><br />I also discovered that imagining something is far different from doing it, and that I probably wouldn't want to do a lot of the things I fantasize about even if someone was daft enough to let me try.<br /><br />So in my case a lot of change was necessary, if I was to fit into the community. Erica, in your case apparently it wasn't; you started out wanting a range of things that are well within the broader range of what spankos do. I needed to "evolve" to fit my environment; you fit yours fine just the way you were. Both are equally okay.<br /><br />Michael in TexasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-82863066540493431332015-01-30T17:40:32.438-08:002015-01-30T17:40:32.438-08:00Pam -- very healthy. That last sentence is true fo...Pam -- very healthy. That last sentence is true for just about everything, isn't it.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-26127848043302283002015-01-30T17:30:41.654-08:002015-01-30T17:30:41.654-08:00Over the last 25+ years my only real change has be...Over the last 25+ years my only real change has been in the intensity of the spankings that seem to satisfy me now, which are still quite mild by what I have seen in FL spanking photos recently. Unlike someone we all know and love, I do NOT have a bionic bottom.<br /><br />I saw the FL discussion you referenced and read many of the replies. Perhaps another change for me is that I now will run from intentionally mean-spirited drama and stress. Earlier on, while I didn't care for it, I was more tolerant as I was still in my learning and information-gathering phase and willingly admitted to not knowing exactly what I ultimately wanted. Now I know and it is basically exactly where I started.<br /><br />Maybe because I am NOT in the public eye and have a relatively healthy self-image as a retired trial attorney, I am not easily swayed into listening to others judge or somehow look down on my love of spanking only (okay, I have learned to enjoy some restraints and slightly edgier play with someone that I know well and trust).<br /><br />So, very little has changed. The biggest change is in my own self-acceptance and knowledge of having found my niche and not needing to widen that niche beyond the basics of simple m/f spanking. The more things change, the more they have stayed the same.<br /><br />PamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-13614662004913051032015-01-30T16:07:15.696-08:002015-01-30T16:07:15.696-08:00MrJ -- I haven't felt the motivation to do any...MrJ -- I haven't felt the motivation to do anything new for a while, but that could very well be due to my state of mind recently. Perhaps if the opportunity presented itself, I'd welcome it. Depends on what it is, I guess.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-26461328457591197572015-01-30T16:03:53.821-08:002015-01-30T16:03:53.821-08:00As for me, there is a comfortable stasis indeed - ...As for me, there is a comfortable stasis indeed - yet not one that kills the taste for the new, for experimenting. . MrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-23555445418943668192015-01-30T15:55:19.310-08:002015-01-30T15:55:19.310-08:00Jay -- it's something to think about, and come...Jay -- it's something to think about, and come back to later. You are in your experimental and discovery phase still, I think. You'll be amazed at how quickly the progression happens, though!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-59242019819190531872015-01-30T15:52:06.993-08:002015-01-30T15:52:06.993-08:00At first, I thought I was going to have a lot to s...At first, I thought I was going to have a lot to say, but as it turns out, I can't articulate any of it into a coherent thought much less type out a sentence. I probably won't be very helpful on this post anyway as I still have a long list of things I haven't tried yet and therefore don't know if any of it falls under progressing from something I didn't think I'd enjoy into something I enjoy all the time, some of the time, or not at all.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040670158317646418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-18508071274339770612015-01-30T15:22:48.119-08:002015-01-30T15:22:48.119-08:00Jen -- I have experimented with various forms of b...Jen -- I have experimented with various forms of bondage. Combined with spanking, it can be very exciting for me. But I have to be in the right mood for it.<br /><br />Anonymous -- I hear you on the "more more more" mentality of late. But I guess there are those for whom part of their kink is pushing the boundaries. And of course not going to parties doesn't make you less of a spanko. It just means you prefer to keep it one-on-one, which many do.<br /><br />Anonymous #2 -- who cares, indeed. You're right, it shouldn't matter. But for someone who is very public about my kink and involved somewhat tangentially with a lot of people, it does. <br /><br />"Anonymous" -- (please! I know who this is.) :-) I effing HATE the diaper position, whether experiencing it or watching it. It's a hard limit.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-40593089366122739912015-01-30T15:03:09.405-08:002015-01-30T15:03:09.405-08:00Over the last several years I've been experime...Over the last several years I've been experimental in going beyond my preferred spankee dynamic of F/F. I attended a major spanking party and played with both genders, even switched with a male partner as well as topped another female at a later event. But I really feel I have come full circle where I want to stick with what most works for me by primarily playing with other female spanking partners as a bottom only to them. <br />When it comes to implements I've very open minded to receiving any thing which smacks my ass and upper thighs. But I never have and never will agree to getting my calves/feet/hands/back smacked with anything. <br />And HELL FUCKING NO to anything anally inserted into me. STRICTLY SPANKING oriented activities for me during any play times. <br />I've been agreeable to many spankee positions but would not agree to the diaper position. I can't stand how it looks in pics or videos. I know I'm in the minority for this and that's fine with me. :)<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-35519554031077978092015-01-30T15:00:57.775-08:002015-01-30T15:00:57.775-08:00I'd say my tastes have expanded a little over ...I'd say my tastes have expanded a little over the years. (I like "expanded" more than "evolved".) I used to stick mostly with hand spankings and maybe a paddle or light implement from time to time. Now I'm ore open to using a variety of implements, depending on the mood and the partner.<br /><br />One line stood out for me in this post, "Are we expected to change and expand, as we progress in our scene experience?" Whose expectations are we talking about? Why would anyone, besides possibly our partner, expect us to do anything? I certainly don't care what the rest of the kinky/spanko comunity thinks about what my partner and I do in our private time. I'm not going to play with people who expect me to do something I'm not comfortable with.<br /><br />I guess what I'm getting at is: who cares about what everyone is doing. What matter is what you and your play partners want. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-74768617919852252212015-01-30T14:26:32.536-08:002015-01-30T14:26:32.536-08:00I'm not a partygoer, but I don't think tha...I'm not a partygoer, but I don't think that makes me less of a spanko. My tastes have stayed pretty stable over a decade or few of obsession :) OTK, on bare bottom, hand, implements sometimes, thighs and anywhere but bottom of relatively low interest and so on. <br /><br />Big changes for me were electronic forums, groups, pages, I feel like there were major interest spikes in spanking/BDSM before the current FSOG furor (pre/post "espanking" for example...I didn't know there were others like me!). I guess the "evolution" that I feel least comfortable with is the profusion of harsh, IMO, spanking videos. I hope that new spankos don't see that first and assume it's the "right" or only way to do things. I don't know the right word...maybe not the subtlety that's been lost, but it seems like we have to do everything over the top these days.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-31109674307248548112015-01-30T14:18:58.731-08:002015-01-30T14:18:58.731-08:0011 years ago I was at a fetish party, and this Dom...11 years ago I was at a fetish party, and this Dom wanted to play, so I agreed because I had friends with me. There was a St. Andrew's Cross on the patio of the bar, so we went out there, and he cuffed me to it. He wanted to do some other things besides spanking me, and I figured what the hell. He did some breast bondage and used the crop on them, which was okay, but it didn't do a damn thing for me. Things got much better when he turned me around and cuffed me so that he could use his paddles and everything on my bottom. It was one of those cases of "I tried it, but meh", so I haven't done it again. I like what I like too, but I like heavy canes and heavier play in general, so even though I'm just into spanking, I'll go to the farther edge of it. I've been cuffed, but not tied up, because I know that being tied up doesn't do anything for me either. Neither do the cuffs. I'll play M/F or F/F no problem.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17080708848612373150noreply@blogger.com