tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post1929008313973176186..comments2023-06-07T03:40:11.408-07:00Comments on Erica Scott: Life, Love & Spanking: Monday morning rambleEricahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-56912583492499850982014-04-10T18:14:54.453-07:002014-04-10T18:14:54.453-07:00Lizzie -- thanks. I can certainly see how that wor...Lizzie -- thanks. I can certainly see how that works for you. If I could get past my complete resistance to being controlled, I could probably see those types of benefits as well.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-18003116982745895832014-04-10T15:55:35.627-07:002014-04-10T15:55:35.627-07:00I think there are two main reasons that "genu...I think there are two main reasons that "genuine punishments" (that's what we call these sorts of punishments, to distinguish them from play or funishments or anything else we do) work in my relationship.<br /><br />First, the threat of a GP can inspire me to accomplish things I ordinarily could not manage. The threat alone can even stop my spiraling emotions, which is something I didn't imagine possible before I met Craig.<br /><br />Second, on a more physical level, standing in the corner stops my head. It's similar to what happens during a spanking or a good scene, but without the floaty emotional high. During a scene, I get that silence but I don't have an opportunity to do anything with it but enjoy (which I'm not complaining about in the least). But standing in the corner, I can use that quiet to reflect very directly on a particular problem or issue. Sometimes I need that.Lizziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05458989635758395480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-82904718470667465922014-04-09T19:32:30.626-07:002014-04-09T19:32:30.626-07:00Anonymous -- LOL! Yeah, that's one way to see ...Anonymous -- LOL! Yeah, that's one way to see it, for sure!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-89636559559883512092014-04-09T18:16:53.815-07:002014-04-09T18:16:53.815-07:00If I don't get to do any spanking, what's ...If I don't get to do any spanking, what's the point?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-63391637636134498942014-04-08T23:42:32.592-07:002014-04-08T23:42:32.592-07:00Jade -- I don't think I ever had to write line...Jade -- I don't think I ever had to write lines. I can't remember if I did.<br /><br />AP -- Okay...<br /><br />Enzo -- I guess the general, and best, consensus is "to each their own," huh?Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-41166902011922661612014-04-08T23:20:07.748-07:002014-04-08T23:20:07.748-07:00It is Interesting, there seems to be a lot of post...It is Interesting, there seems to be a lot of posts in the spanking blogs recently about people seriously wondering about others degrees of submission. <br /><br />Honestly, I don't get it all the degrees either, much the same way I don't understand all fetishes. However myself having certain affinities that others easily frown upon, I find myself more and more understanding. <br /><br />More understanding in the realm of "if that works for them and it makes them happy and its consensual etc; good for them". I guess I am more confused by seemingly non-consensual, ongoing relationships. <br /><br />Just a comment and an observation of coincidental postings.Enzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11556688278392257042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-28907852221172742032014-04-08T20:29:49.538-07:002014-04-08T20:29:49.538-07:00Spank me if you will, but restrict me not, nor cal...Spank me if you will, but restrict me not, nor call me the lesser person when I'm more than that, but less than a grain of sand or snowflake, coming only once than perishing quickly either on the high tide or the heat of the noonday sun.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-55013281342453842582014-04-08T20:01:28.373-07:002014-04-08T20:01:28.373-07:00Hi Erica -- You are NEVER too old to be spanked :-...Hi Erica -- You are NEVER too old to be spanked :-) I like to be spanked and scolded but I agree with you, about being put down and called names,That's where I draw the line.My foster Mom used to make me write lines and essays and I also had corner time and early bed time,I was on restriction too but I don't think they totally worked for me.My hands and arms would hurt and get tired from all that writing. I think a good otk spanking really got my attention LOL :-) Much Love and hugs from naughty girl Jadejadelyn1975https://www.blogger.com/profile/01227913685563205943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-58067210030228669602014-04-08T09:24:47.170-07:002014-04-08T09:24:47.170-07:00Bobbie Jo -- birthdays are for fun. :-)Bobbie Jo -- birthdays are for fun. :-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-70331521549264706712014-04-08T09:12:04.958-07:002014-04-08T09:12:04.958-07:00I think it should have an element of fun in this. ...I think it should have an element of fun in this. For me, there is some fun, although I need to have a catharsis, as well.<br /><br />A side note: on my birthday, my top was having a lot of fun at my expense. Not that I minded, of course. :-)Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-49870576157045389052014-04-07T20:59:58.655-07:002014-04-07T20:59:58.655-07:00Anonymous -- see, that's what I was looking fo...Anonymous -- see, that's what I was looking for. I wanted to hear what it does for you. :-)<br /><br />Anonymous 2 -- I don't want to put down what other people like. That wasn't the point of my post. I know what I like and what I don't, but I'm trying to understand what makes others like what they do. A lot of people would think what *I* do is weird child stuff, after all.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-230213714726951672014-04-07T20:55:57.742-07:002014-04-07T20:55:57.742-07:00I think you nailed it. There is an excitement and ...I think you nailed it. There is an excitement and immediacy to spanking. That other stuff is just weird child grade school/middle school stuff. It is not fun. Spanking should be fun for both parties. If it isn't folks should not do it. Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-20452099751120781182014-04-07T19:33:27.155-07:002014-04-07T19:33:27.155-07:00I love being told to write lines being escorted to...I love being told to write lines being escorted to the corner and having my hands placed behind my back or on top of my head. It's a calming time for me and allows me to "wash away" the stress of my day and readies me for what's to come.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-3411165807647288412014-04-07T16:49:55.892-07:002014-04-07T16:49:55.892-07:00Brat E. -- Six??? Holy moly. Yes, I can see how ti...Brat E. -- Six??? Holy moly. Yes, I can see how time would be a factor! :-)<br /><br />Kelly -- good point in that I'll probably never have to deal with it. I'm just curious about the head space of others and what it does for them.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-77560293961256528902014-04-07T16:33:07.367-07:002014-04-07T16:33:07.367-07:00Age is irrelevant as long as you are having a grea...Age is irrelevant as long as you are having a great time getting spanked. I think that also applies to the other punishments like grounding, line writing, etc. If those actions serve a positive purpose to the recipient, then by all means they should do them. But honestly, NONE of those would work for me.<br />Spankings and occasional scoldings are what I most enjoy. <br />I'm like you where I am pretty self disciplined. I work out almost daily and eat mostly healthy foods and keep up with annual doctor's appts. So most of the scolding would play out in a very entertaining role play scene with one of my tops. <br />Possibly you won't have to deal with the dilemma of whether or not you would "obey" a top who ordered you to write lines, stand in the corner, etc. Because if it's a person who already values your needs and desires, the topic may never surface between you. Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-41626403055524321912014-04-07T16:02:02.314-07:002014-04-07T16:02:02.314-07:00We haven't been practicing for too long, so th...We haven't been practicing for too long, so things may change in the future. As for now, I get spanked for being a brat, or for falling into old habits that I'm working on breaking. Here 'n there a stress reliever or reminder type. Those alternate punishments like corner time or lines probably wouldn't go over well, because I'm a busy mom of six little minions. It's difficult enough to carve out time for spankings, and--like you--I would have the hardest time not feeling absolutely ridiculous. I wouldn't put it past him to put a temporary hold on social media if I kept putting of something I'd been asked to do, but I depend on internet and social media for a lot of the charitable fundraising and similar things I'm involved with, so even that wouldn't be a good solution.<br /><br />Spankings only for us. Occasionally Cap cream if he's away, but it does nothing for head space when used that way, so not very often.Brat E. Pantsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-16245234824972223672014-04-07T14:34:19.440-07:002014-04-07T14:34:19.440-07:00John -- I guess it's not supposed to be about ...John -- I guess it's not supposed to be about fun? Who knows. I'm neutral on that -- I'll do it for a trusted playmate if he wants it, but it does nothing for me.Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-69957881603125118652014-04-07T14:33:03.111-07:002014-04-07T14:33:03.111-07:00Anonymous -- I think for spanking lovers, a spanki...Anonymous -- I think for spanking lovers, a spanking can still be punishment, IF it's not strictly about the pain. There has to be an alteration in head space, a sense that I've disappointed my top, that I've insulted or hurt someone and I'm genuinely feeling crappy about it, etc. <br /><br />Bobbie Jo -- I actually kinda like scolding, as long as it's not berating. I don't want to be called names or told what an awful person I am. But some gentle chiding can really spice things up for me. <br /><br />Craig -- I get this, I do. I guess I'm just trying to understand what it is about these alternatives that works for people. I'm not saying it shouldn't work for them, I just want to know why. :-) It's the part of me that craves comprehension.<br /><br />MrJ -- believe it or not, I *can* be submissive. But I guess I don't like to be controlled. Oh hell, I don't know what I like half the time. A lot of it depends on how close I am to the man!Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-20166750319005307882014-04-07T14:28:14.369-07:002014-04-07T14:28:14.369-07:00"Silly corner" may work as discipline fo..."Silly corner" may work as discipline for 5 year old children, but I can't see it being fun for a grown woman. <br /><br />JohnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-40370145970065705642014-04-07T12:16:05.876-07:002014-04-07T12:16:05.876-07:00You are not too old for anything, I'd say.;-))...You are not too old for anything, I'd say.;-))<br />But, on a more serious note, some things apparently work better than others, for historical and actual reasons. In addition to what you menion, I also sense that submission-as-such is not really topur piece of cake. <br />MrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-42801133333193489972014-04-07T11:56:47.687-07:002014-04-07T11:56:47.687-07:00Coming to the realization that what is acceptable ...Coming to the realization that what is acceptable to me may not be acceptable to others and vice-versa was an important early lesson in the lifestyle. I may not agree or like what I see, but I'm accepting of the fact that if it works for someone else, who am I to say?<br /><br />Certainly, my own evolution in the lifestyle has changed my perspective on things and stuff I couldn't imagine understanding, wanting or doing I do every day. <br /><br />Spanko, D/s, whatever it is, if it works for you it works. Whatever floats your boat.Craig Aychhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07853109320153985359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-76293567181322202902014-04-07T11:47:35.733-07:002014-04-07T11:47:35.733-07:00I have used being grounded from social media with ...I have used being grounded from social media with my bottom. I try not to make it too long, though, and I only do it when I think it is necessary for her to get some work done. I prefer to use encouragement than punishment, though. <br /><br />As for a punishment spanking, even for a spanking fetishist, it can work for certain things. For one thing, it is a different kind of spanking. For another, sometimes it is what is said during the spanking that makes the difference. <br /><br />As for the writing of lines, standing in the corner, etc, most of that is a waste of time. So, also, is requiring a bottom to write a 3000 word essay in two days! I don't know of anyone who can do that, including professional writers! I agree with my top: writing is for creative purposes, such a poetry, stories, novels, biographies, history, etc. Writing lines is an exercise in futility.<br /><br />For me, it means a lot to have someone willing to pride something I need and do that in a nurturing way, not punitive. Though I have seen her deliver a punishment spanking in person, which was somewhat difficult to watch, it was what the other party wanted. <br /><br />I have a hard time understanding why anyone wants to be scolded, but there are those who feel the need for that, too. Just don't try it on me! And don't order me to do anything! Encouragement goes a long way!<br /><br />I think it boils down to what each spanko believes they need and want. It is as varied as the number of spankos. Bobbie Jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3661741523263753420.post-3112551670564770732014-04-07T10:50:52.268-07:002014-04-07T10:50:52.268-07:00I'm thinking the IM guy probably got off on th...I'm thinking the IM guy probably got off on the power he would have if you did go and stand in the corner for 30 minutes: he could control you like that. Even if you didn't do it and told him that you did, he'd love it because he could imagine that you did as he ordered.<br /><br />On the spanking, maybe you enjoy being "forced" to do something that you really enjoy doing anyway?<br /><br />That's why I also have questions about the use of spanking as (real) punishment for a spanking fetishist. They're going to be subjected to this act that they feardreadhatecravewantneed to reduce the occurrence of the undesirable behavior?<br /><br />Writing lines or social media timeout would be more like true punishment, but I've no interest in that, or allowing others to exert that type of control over me. Others' MMV :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com